Thursday, November 18, 2010

Tonya Hacker makes fun of disabled children on radio show

Some of you may know about my problems with a lady from Oklahoma. Tonya Hacker is her name, feeding her ego is just one of her games. Tonya is one of a group which calls itself "The Ghost Divas". Yes, I know the name of the group alone is a HUGE red flag. I've met Tonya, been to her house, helped her produce her radio show, and exchanged countless emails with her and her fellow divas.
When I stopped helping her produce the radio she was part of. She got pissed and started telling her friends, sending out emails, and posting on facebook the following lies about me-
1) I beat women
2) I give my daughter drugs
3) I had been to prison
4) I was stalking her (FYI- I live in CA)
5) I was an internet bully (this claim was made when I responded to 1-4 by telling her to STFU)

Tonya Hacker's behavior made me well aware of the fact she was a mental case and a complete bitch. I made my feelings about her quite clear in several ways and then went on to better things. Tonya Hacker has a long history of doing the same type of thing she did to me, to others.
The following blog describes how she took a swipe at some disabled kids on her radio show because she doesn't like their father.

Tonya Hacker “Ghost Divas” verbally attacks innocent children on radio.
Take a few minutes to read the comments.

After reading the blog on SciFake it should be clear that Tonya Hacker has lost what little sanity she may have had. Attacking a guy's disabled kids just because she doesn't like him?? Not only does she talk shit about Ron Tebo's kids, she defends her actions. If anyone else had done what she did (and they were not friends of hers) she would have been all over their shit. If your name is Tonya Hacker I guess you can do/say anything you want.
The only reasons I am even writing about this demented idiotic woman is because she has done this type of thing to people so many times, and so that there will be one more piece of information about her true character available to people. If it helps even one person to avoid dealing with this irresponsible dim-wit then my time is well spent.
To say Tonya Hacker has no class does not even come close to describing her. Her type can not be described using mere words. She is a woman who's lack of compassion, consideration, empathy, and intellect is so completely disgusting it makes a person physically ill when considering it.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Idiots Unchecked

There are some things which should be addressed. These days a single person can reach hundreds, thousands, millions or more with one single click of a mouse. Even people who are stupid beyond belief can spread that stupidity around the world in moments from the comfort of their computer chair. The internet has become a great way to spread knowledge, share differing opinions, and meet new people. There is another side of it. A lot of bullshit and crap finds it's way to us through the net too.
My last couple of blogs were the result of a habit I have, pointing out idiots and the reasons why I believe they are idiots.
I received several comments on my last couple blogs about shockofgod and his foolishness. Some people think it is silly to give any attention to crazy people. "Just ignore them, they will go away" "Don't feed the trolls" "I don't waste my time on such people" These are just a few ways people express a lack of interest in speaking back to what they don't agree with.
I guess it's ok if some people don't want to come back at trolls like shockofgod. He is an idiot and a liar, among other things. I can see how some people could consider it a waste of time to counter his bullshit.
I don't consider it a waste of my time. It seems like someone should speak out against lies and stupidity. It would be different if I thought shockofgod was going to fade away due to lack of attention. Even if all his enemies were to stop speaking out against him, I think he would go on. When someone of his ilk has 13,000 followers there should be an army of voices working to present the truth. He should be overwhelmed by messages informing him that his lies need to stop.
There are examples of this over the place. When people keep to themselves about things they see going on which are wrong, then those things are likely to continue. The 'ignore it and it will go away' or 'it doesn't effect me' mentality that so many people have these days is sad, ignorant, and dangerous.
The reason gays can't get married here in the state of CA is not because most people oppose it. The reason gays can't marry is because most of the people who don't oppose it don't say so. You can sure as hell bet if everyone who thought it was unfair to deny gays equal rights would do something to correct it then the issue would be resolved. But, most people in CA are not gay so it doesn't directly effect their lives.
It is a troublesome thing the way the people in this country sit mum about things that don't directly apply to them. Unless something will have a direct negative impact on someone, a shrug of the shoulders is all the outrage they can muster up.
This is the reason we see ourselves with a little less 'freedom' each time we have elections, or each time the city council has a meeting and 3 people attend.
In San Francisco the city council just made it illegal for fast food restaurants to give out toys with kids meals unless the meal meets certain nutritional standards. I won't go into this specific issue except to say I think it is an example of government with it priorities seriously out of order. The city of San Francisco certainly has more pressing issues to attend to.
Watch what happens when this law goes into effect. The people who couldn't find the time to speak out against it will be wondering how such a law came to be.
Our freedoms are not taken away all at once but little bits at a time. Until we wake up one day asking ourselves what the hell happened.
Stupidity in any and all forms should be addressed. Even if it is one comment, email, phone call, everyone should take the time to speak out and say " I don't like this because..." If you don't then it shouldn't be a surprise when no one comes to help as unchecked idiots force their beliefs on you.

Friday, November 5, 2010

Shockofgod- Propaganda

noun \ˌprä-pə-ˈgan-də, ˌprō-\
: ideas, facts, or allegations spread deliberately to further one's cause or to damage an opposing cause; also : a public action having such an effect

I have continued listening/watching as shockofgod, using his rhetoric spewing head, tells the world "Atheists suck".
One video that I watched today was interesting to me and provided more insight into why shockofgod feels compelled to spread made up evidence, skewed logic, and propaganda around the land.
The video is filmed from some kind of helmet-camera shockofgod wears while riding his motorcycle. I don't know why he chooses to make videos of himself riding around on a motorcycle, maybe he thinks simple/boring things impress other people the same way as they do him.
The narration is also done as he rides the motorcycle. As you watch shockofgod ride around the extremely exciting streets of his city (yawn) he tells the story of how he became an Atheist.
The story begins with shockofgod being a young child Atheist. After years of being a non-believer(through high school) one day he picked up the bible and started reading. From what I can tell, the bible so confounded shockofgod that he went to some christians to find out more about this jesus christ guy.
Let me pause here to make what I consider a valid point.....
Shockofgod claims he was once an Atheist, which may be technically accurate. If the story he tells is true, then he was not a very informed one. He had never even read the bible. How could he be a true Atheist if he never even knew anything about what it was he didn't believe in? Isn't that a bit like saying 'I hate the taste of chicken' when you have never tasted it? Sure you can hate the taste of chicken if you choose to but you are forming an opinion based on ignorance. He even says "no one had ever talked to me about jesus christ" This is yet another indication shockofgod has never been very good at thinking things through before embracing them.
Anyway.... shockofgod starts reading the bible and hangin' around christians. He also "starts researching jesus christ".
He finds a story that talks about thousands of eye-witnesses who saw jesus resurrected. As soon as he starts talking about these eyewitnesses being evidence to him of jesus being a real historical figure a few images pop into my mind. You have heard of the Loch Ness monster, right? Yea that was proven to be a hoax, a lot of people claimed to have seen a monster out on the lake though. What about Big Foot? Tons of people have claimed to have seen Big Foot....the sad part is....It does not matter how many people claim to have seen these things, that does not mean they exist. There is something else that must be considered also. IF jesus, the son of god, really did walk the earth in the past as shockofgod believes, it does not provide proof that god is real. How many times have we read about people who believe they are 'chosen' by some type of higher power? How many preachers have claimed to speak directly to god, chosen by the almighty to relay god's will to the puny humans of earth? Who is to say jesus was not just delusional and hearing voices?
True to his form, shockofgod begins his parrot-like repetition of the phrase 'proof and evidence'.
He talks about the 'beyond a doubt proof' he has found by reading the bible. A 2000 year old story. Yep, a 2000 year old story that says god sent jesus to earth by performing what equates to a perverted magic trick. Shockofgod reads about how jesus loves him and that does it, he is hooked on jesus. He is no longer an Atheist.
He believes jesus is the son of god, the bible is god's word, and it is his duty to spread god's word.
In case you didn't notice, this pretty much nails (pun...sorry...) shockofgod down as far as trying to figure out what caused a short in his reason circuit.
He needed love. Shockofgod talks about something missing from his life while he was an 'Atheist' (note: His being Atheist was not because he made an informed decision, it was a result of either very little education, a learning disability, or plain stupidity.)
It is very possible poor ol' shock didn't get enough hugs as a child. The first person who ever really loved him was jesus. This may be the reason why shock makes up such crazy shit to support his christian (or missionary) position. It is also why he has picked a question he already knows the answer to as his 'challenge' to Atheists. He did so to protect his own beliefs. Shockofgod is trying to convince people that Atheist( by admitting there is no proof or evidence that proves Atheism is accurate and correct) are somehow showing the logic they follow is negatively flawed. From an Atheist perspective the correct answer to shockofgod's question would be "There is no absolute proof or evidence that proves Atheism is accurate and correct" This answer does not prove that Atheism is wrong, it proves it is honest and realistic.
Shockofgod uses his question and the answer as religious propaganda. This use serves him in two ways.
1) Makes it easier (if that is possible) to fool the types of people who follow shockofgod into thinking christian beliefs are superior to any others.
2) It allows shockofgod to continue to blindly follow jesus/christianity without question, after all if his beliefs were wrong then how could shockofgod win the challenge against any and every Atheist?
At this point let me pause and take a minute to be happy I was not born so damn screwed up in the head as shockofgod.....
Ok, one more observation- Shockofgod god asks another question during this video. "Are you willing to compare the proof and evidence that jesus christ is the son of god against the proof and evidence that Atheism is accurate and correct?"
I laughed a little when I heard him ask. I am willing to compare the two against each other. If you were to believe that jesus is the son of god (This would also mean accepting the bible as the word of god and all that) then you would also have accept god as the type of being he is portrayed as in the bible. In case you didn't know it, in the bible, god is a dick. Do not take my word for it, research it for yourself.
Atheism does not claim to possess all the answers to the questions we have about the universe we live in. It does not explain the mysteries of the world by saying "it was magic" , "just because", or "it's a secret plan" It admits it's own ignorance. That acknowledgment of ignorance is what indicates intelligence. Of course I could be wrong.....
Here is a link to the shockofgod video in case you feel like wasting some of the precious time you have left to live.

Next up- Shockofgod does radio...kinda

Monday, November 1, 2010

Shockofgod- An explanation of idiocy

I'm listening to an idiot who goes by the name Shockofgod, don't worry, the label I have given to his name is earned. Shockofgod is on a crusade. He is rolling up on Atheists and asking them to provide proof or evidence that Atheism is accurate/correct. Shockofgod is a complete fool.

One of the tactics he uses is over-talking when having a conversation. He not only over-talks others, he is also rude in other ways.His lack of manners is also displayed in the form of idiotic mocking.
As I try to figure out why he resorts to this child-like behavior I begin to see a kind of evil-below average IQ mentality in Shockofgod. I do however get the impression he knows the 'lack of accuracy/proof' approach used is very weak. Shockofgod must present a facade of his superior religious intellect shutting down any Atheist position to the types of simple-minded people who follow him in order to fool them. The only way to do this is to never allow the other side of the debate to make any points at all. If somehow the opposing side gets a point through in-between breaths then Shockofgod will make some type of childish joke about that point and immediately go back to repeatedly demanding proof/evidence.
Shockofgod is a classic example of an individual who is so stupid they can not even begin to grasp the depths of the moronic abyss in which they reside.
After listening to several of Shockofgod's videos, (which are always oozing with a form of conceit that causes me to imagine how it would feel to punch him in the face several times) I get several pieces of the puzzle put together.
Shockofgod has a desperate need to be popular/known. This is why he 'calls out' Atheists who are better known and more respected than himself. If he was really doing work to further his cause because he believed in it then he would go head to head with any/every one who questioned his claims of providing absolute proof that god is real and that Atheists can not provide any proof whatsoever.
What Shockofgod does is block anyone who may be able to counteract the poison he spreads or who is not known well enough to help him feed his need to have people know who he is.
I am going to keep watching this idiot's videos. (even though I can feel myself growing 'dumbed-down' as the words come to my ears and my eyes are exposed to the images) I will keep building my 'profile' of this talking intellectual equivalent of a tree stump.
What I know so far about Shockofgod is as follows...
-Has typical need to be popular which is often seen in socially stunted people. An example of this would be a person who, when among a group of friends, is constantly making comments which demonstrate the person's inability to understand how others perceive them. Such behavior will consist of constantly annoying people by claiming they are more intelligent, and telling jokes that no one finds funny, then laughing at them. This type will also try to put themselves in a leadership role even though anyone with even basic common sense will ignore the attempt, because they consider the person inept.
--Makes up facts. Shockofgod has demonstrated he is very comfortable pulling information,stats,quotes out of thin air and presenting them as absolutely true beyond a doubt. This is most likely because he is not bright enough to figure out how to acquire any real information and apply it so that it will validate his position. It could also be a result of him being just plain lazy.
--Tries to give the impression of having an extreme amount of self-confidence. It is easy to see this is an act if you observe his behavior. People who truly possess self confidence do not go out of their way to tell you how self assured they are, they do not need to. In almost all cases where an individual constantly squawks about how superior they are to another it is because they feel they are mentally impotent (may also be a result of being physically impotent)
So as you can see, a very clear picture of Shockofgod is coming together after watching just a few of his videos. It should not be long before we begin to understand fully why a man like Shockofgod continues to act as a religious troll despite the fact anyone who actually applies reason to the world around them perceives him as a complete and utter dimwit.
More insight into Shockofgod will follow.
See what I am talking about for yourself, resist the urge to spit on your computer screen.

Friday, October 15, 2010

You idiot

We are all idiots. Yes this means you, it means me. I know this may offend some of you but just bear with me for a minute.
We all do stupid things. We all have made stupid choices, said stupid things or had beliefs that as we look back, were lame.
There is nothing wrong with being an idiot. The problem is when you know you are an idiot and you choose to continue to be one.
There are many reasons some people keep being stupid, such as-
1) To admit you are/were and idiot may make you look like even more of a moron.
The opposite is actually true. Most times, people know you are a dumb ass and just put up with you and talk shit behind your back.Other times they just let you go on being an imbecile because they find you fun to point and laugh at.
2) To admit you are an idiot will make you feel like other people are smarter than you.
The fact is other people are smarter than you. Accept it. You are not the smartest person on the planet, you never will be and if you think there is any possibility you are the smartest person who walks the earth the you are still an idiot....start over at the top of the page.
3) You are to damn dumb to realize how stupid you are.
There is no hope for these people. The best the rest of us can do is to hope these types walk in front of a moving bus sooner rather than later.
Let me wrap this up by reminding you it is okay to be an really have no choice anyway.
The one thing you need to do is stop being a fucking moron as soon as possible....Thank you in advance.

Thursday, September 30, 2010

The web we weave

I watched a spider build his web, tonight.
I had just got off the phone with my father when my girlfriend called me over to see the insect build his new trap.
The spider was a genius. I watched as he built his new trap under a light outside my front door.
As I thought about the spider and the conversation I had just had with my father a thought came to mind.
We all build our webs. Sometimes we build them in a bad place, never having any hope to catch a damn thing. Other times we think it through and we build our web in a great spot.
I watch as the spider plans, he weaves, he works to make all his effort worth it.
Sometimes it does not matter how much you plan and count on things to work, all your effort is for naught. It was nice to watch as this little insect built his home and know that it would more likely than not work out quite well for him. If only we could all be so lucky.

Monday, September 27, 2010

Lost Passing

I was thinking last night about my grandfather. I didn't know him real well. There were the trips to see him every other summer. While fun, they didn't allow me to know the man. My grandfather fought in the Korean war. My grandfather ran an auto-repair shop, he also was a new-car salesman. I remember him laughing with me when I was a kid. I remember him teaching me how to catch a catfish and how to kill it, gut it, and cook it. Even though these are grand memories, I still didn't learn enough about him. When I was a kid it never occurred to me that one day he would be gone. Even as I grew older I did not take the time to learn about him as I should have. Now that I know better it is too late, he is gone.
I sit here and I wonder about his life and I know those stories are all gone. This is not to say his life and memories are wasted but they are lost. Lost when he died.
I sat last night and thought about the things I have done and said. I tought about the good/bad times I have known. They are all important to me and I thought about the fact they will all be memories and lessons gone unless I share them. So here we go.
I remember my girlfriend who died when she was 16. Here name was Michelle. We broke up just before she died. I did not know she was sick when we broke up. The distance between us just made it too hard for a kid who was using his mom's car to get around. She had a 69 Mustang in her garage that her Dad was restoring or her to drive. She had a great laugh. She had scars on her back from surgery that I never asked about because they didn't matter to me, and I didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable.
I learned about Michelle's death about a month after she died by reading the newspaper.
I went to visit the site where they buried her. There was no marker yet and I only knew It was the correct place because a lady at the cemetery gave me a slip of paper with a letter and a number, just like they do at the DMV.
I sat for a bit looking at the fresh dirt and asked her why she had not told me she was sick. She didn't answer. I wish I would have taken the time to get to know her better too.
Even after all this time it still bothers me to know she knew she was dying and never told me.
I would love to wrap this up with some witty comment but in this case I just hope you get my point. That would be good enough.

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

The book is on fire

Terry Jones wants to burn a book. No, he is not doing it to keep warm or to make sure his chicken dinner gets cooked enough.
He is burning a book in protest of 9/11.
The problem is the book is not to blame and his need to burn it could very well do more harm than good.
I can understand the anger some people feel towards the muslim religion, when you lose people you love it is natural to lash out at anything or anyone that could be associated with that loss. That does not mean the anger is directed correctly.
What Terry Jones knows about the muslim religion, by his own admission, has been learned through you tube.
Terry did not lose any member of his family on 9/11, where has his hate and need to burn books come from?
In my opinion it is Terry imitating the very people he is against. Extremists.
Burning the Koran is an act which will do no good, it will not make any point except that we can be as stupid as anyone else.
Burning a book, any book, for any reason is not a good thing in my opinion.

Monday, September 6, 2010

For the hate of god

A lot of people have been asking me why I hate god. I don't hate god. If I were to hate god then I would also have to say I hate the little green men who live in my underwear drawer. I don't hate those little green men because I don't believe they are there. I do hate what organized religion has done to many of the people who live on this planet with me. I do not hate all aspects of religion, that would be stupid.
Religion, does, and has done some good things.
It serves as a way for a lot of people to socialize, a way for them to help others, and religion has stopped some people from doing things that would harm others.
Sure you can say that religion has also given people an excuse to harm others. I can't prove that religion has caused people to do more good than harm, no one can, because we are not able to read people's minds and know for sure.
Religion has also done some bad things.
The fairy tales told in many religious books keep people from considering reality, in my opinion. If you believe a magic man is going to come and save humanity some day then you tend to be lazy in trying to help humanity while you are around. It is much easier to sit around with your arms behind your head saying 'jesus will be here soon and it will all be okay' than to try and progress using science and your thought process.
Now, let's go back to my first line- Do I hate god?
If god is the god as described in any of the religions I know of so far, no, I don't hate him. He will not be someone I will worship or obey. I will however pity him...
Maybe I can get him to go live in my underwear drawer.

Saturday, August 28, 2010

Mere Words

I am going to say a few words about my Dad. I love him, and I am glad we patched things up.
My father taught me to think for myself and to think about the world. Even though I know sometimes my ways of presenting my points are different from his, I remember what he taught me and try to make him proud. Not just to please him or make myself feel good but because I respect what he taught me. I wish the words needed to express my feelings would find a way to me but this is one of the times when words can't express my thoughts.
I love you Dad.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

60 seconds of your time............

Your attention span sucks. Nothing personal, but it's true.
The bad news? It's getting worse.
As we go further into the future and technology grows faster than we can evolve, we can not keep up. We are trying though. That brings me back to the first sentence. Our attention span sucks because of all the information we are offered. If you go to a website and it does not catch your attention right away....guess what?? CLICK! Next site please.
If a news story can't get you interested in the first 30 will move on.
This is both a blessing and a curse. It helps us weed out some of the loads of crap we find on the net. It also causes us to miss a lot of what may be good because the people providing the content just don't get it yet.
As someone who writes blogs, does radio, and makes video content for you tube, I can tell you the points I am making today are always kept in mind.
Today's blog goes out to the people trying to reach others as well as you click happy surfers out there.
Remember to get to the point and remember to give 60 seconds to a site.
We have a vast amount of knowledge available to us and we don't have time for any bullshit.
Nothing is going to change our lack of attention, face it...
The good news?? I kept this blog short.

Saturday, August 21, 2010


I have never seriously thought about killing myself. I have been pissed about life at times but to take my own life has never been one of the choices to deal with any issues. Having said that, I have never known any serious hardship, I have been lucky.
Some people are not as lucky as I.
The unemployment rate in this country continues to grow and the suicide rate for people without work is 2 to 3 times that of the national average. The longer the rate stays high the more likely it is that a person who has taken their own life is someone who has lost a job and can not find another.
People work to buy a home and build a family, to grasp the American dream. That dream is going away quickly for a lot of Americans. The sad part is.. they had the dream and it has been snatched away by the economy.
We have young men fighting overseas, they are looking at things worse than our nightmares. The problem is they can not wake up from it, get a drink of water and go back to sleep in a warm bed. They have to live it. And as I have said before...I don't know about these things in real life, I can only imagine....and that itself disturbs me.
The little voice in the back of my head is the reason I am writing tells me some people don't realize what is going on in our country, it tells me we are too detached from the war now... we are calloused.
We need to understand even though we have not known real hardship that does not mean others are not going through things we only dream about in our nightmares.
This country is still in bad shape. We need to make sure, as we sit on our nice couches and watch CNN, while sipping on wine and eating a nice steak, others are suffering. We need to take at least some small action to acknowledge these facts.
When people are killing themselves while we sit back and watch......we have bad tendencies

Monday, August 16, 2010

What did god mean???

The gays have been once again put off in CA because of Prop 8. Prop8, in case you don't know, is basically supposed to help keep the definition of the word marriage limited to referring to a man and a woman. This is a result of religious beliefs (christian). If anyone tries to tell you otherwise, they are full of shit. I don't get the problem with the people who support Prop8 . Who cares,really? If two people love each other let them live happily ever after.
I can tell you my thoughts on what were to happen if this was a case of other things the bible tells christians. Let's start with slavery. If there were a proposition to allow slavery because the word is sacred and 'god's word', what do you think would happen today? I can give a pretty good guess......There would be cities burning, cars overturned, people killed.
Let's move on to stoning...the bible speaks of stoning people. Again a sacred word of god, which must be followed because the creator has told us in a book of his holy message.
Working on Sunday....all you christians who work on Sunday are going against the wishes of god.
Let's use the same logic applied to the word marriage and think of the word 'Sunday' in the same context. Sunday is a holy day, and no one shall work on that day. Do not dare change its meaning, to deviate from the holy bible. Anyone who works on Sunday will be put to death. Too bad for you.....
Let's stop and think about the results of that for a minute....ok, less than that because the thought is quite disturbing isn't it?
Aren't we damn lucky the gays are patient? Isn't it funny how the christians have picked THIS ONE WORD and clung to it while allowing so many others to remain because it suits them.
The little voice in my head whispers the phrase 'taken out of context' little voice always makes a good point. Are all the above examples 'taken out of context' except the marriage issue?? I don't think so. What I think is it is just a bit more proof the bible is not the word of god. The bible is the word of men who didn't know any better at the time it was written. Those days have passed and we do know better now, at least we should.................

Imagine This....

I have written about the weakness some people have with imagination. I figured it would be time to clarify things a bit...
Imagination can be a good thing, it helps us to achieve things. Imagination gives us something to aspire to. It is because of the imagination of man, and woman, we have progressed in so many ways.
This is not to say imagination is always a good thing. Like I have said before, if you believe in everything and think it to be true or possible then that is just silly.
People need to realize the imagination is both a blessing and a curse on mankind. While it helps us reach new levels of understand and grow possibilities, it also has the power to stifle us if we let it become reality before it's time.
Use your imagination to entertain you and to help mankind progress but please do not allow it to hold us back.

Friday, August 13, 2010

The 'good' Book?

I have an issue with people who follow the bible....I also have a question....WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU??!!
Ok, so I know many of you have heard it all before just hang out while I vent a bit.
The bible is supposed to be the word of god. You cant pick and choose what you want to follow. Very simple. Any damn moron could figure it out. Bible=god's word.
Then you MUST follow god's word if you believe it actually is.
That means..(among other things)
-You believe in owning slaves
- you are all good with rape
-god will cause you to burn for eternity if you screw up (note: you will have gone insane in the first 5 minutes of this process, and the rest will be pretty pointless)
-killing innocent people is ok if god signs off on it
-women have no real place except to serve males
I could go on all day long but I think you get the point. If you don't get the point then you are a bit fucked up (sometimes profanity is called for)
Let me say this real slow for's....word....
Would the creator speak with a hidden meaning? REALLY? Is he testing you?
If he is testing you it would seem a bit unfair. You never even got a book with FACTS to study with.
Just think about it...if the person/thing that created all we know were to write a book to help us find him would he have written it so that all it did was cause doubt to intelligent people??
I think not......

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Proof of god??

I hear this a lot of times from religious people..."you cant prove god does not exist, so he does"
This is usually followed by a folding of arms and a smug look. Once and a while someone will say the above phrase and give me a wink as to say "Now I got ya!"
I would like to answer this like I have a thousand times before.
If you want to believe in a god, any god because no one can prove it/he/she does not exist then you must, in fairness believe in anything anyone could imagine.
This means you must believe in any imaginary figures you see in movies or cartoons. You must believe in the delusions of people you would call crazy. You must also believe in the monster your kid thinks lives in the closet and wants to eat them whenever the lights go off. You must have faith in aliens from other planets. You must believe in a magnetic pendant that cures cancer while it is around your neck. You must believe in water having memory of medicines that are diluted so strongly, your mind can not even grasp the number of zeros involved. You must believe in ghost, demon possession, and people being given directions by god to kill their children.
If the logic you follow is 'everything is possible if you believe' that would make you good a a writer for Disney movies. That same logic would also make you and idiot when it comes to real life.....

Sunday, July 18, 2010


First part of a story I am writing...nevermind the errors...they will be fixed, just wanted to share it....

Opening the bar was always a pain in the ass. Why couldn't he find good bartenders? Terry put down the rag he had been using to wipe down the bar-top and went out to have a smoke. He sat on the bench in the 'smoking area', pulled out his lighter which should have been dead a long time ago yet still provided a flame, and lit a cig. As he watched the smoke wonder up through the warm air he said to himself "I wish I could find some good help around here" The words were smoken with a mouthful of smoke and as soon as he had said them, the phone rang. As he got up to answer it he cussed under his breath that his break had been cut short. As he walked back into the bar the bush near the door caught his sleeve. "GOD DAMNIT" Terry said to the shrub. "I gotta get that cut back" he said to himself.
Terry rushed to answer the phone not wanting to have cut his break off for nothing. "Hello?" he asked into the cordless phone. A female voice answered back "Hi, I was wondering if you were hiring bartenders. I'm really good and I am working now, but my boss is a fucking perv and I am sick of his shit." Terry felt like he had just been hit in the face by the quick delivery of words. "Well, I can set up an interview if you would like to come in" "You aren't some jerk who can't keep his hands to himself are you?" The voice asked back. "Um, no. I just run my bar" Terry said, not sure why he was even still talking to this woman. "My name is Renee, when do you want me to come in?" "How about tomorrow at 11am? Do you need the address?" "Nope, got it. See you then, thanks" click. She was gone. Terry thought to himself...I wonder what will come of that...then he went back to wiping down the bartop while he waited for Ron to get to work. He was going to rip him him a new asshole.
The light from the front door came through shining through the half dozen beer glasses and gaining attention from one person in the bar. Terry watched as Ron walked in slowly making his way towards the back of the bar. Thirty minutes late and he can't even act like he cares. "Ron! I need to talk to you before you get started" Ron nodded his head and kept walking to the back. Terry followed him. "Ron, what's up man?" "I overslept,tough night last night" Ron said.
Terry knew Ron was full of shit because he saw the numbers Ron had done the night before. "Bullshit man. Look I am sick of coming in to open and having to do the closing list before I can even get started. Nothing is stocked, the bartop is so sticky it's like someone has been jerking off on it. Your paperwork is full of stupid mistakes. Then you have the nerve to come in thirty-minutes late without even a fuck call to let me know what's up" "CAN I GET A GOD DAMN DRINK OR WHAT?!" Shit! Terry had left the front unattended! "BE RIGHT THERE!" Terry hollered back. "Stay here, I will be right back" Terry went to the front of the bar and gave a bud-light to an old timer who thanked him by whispering "bout damn time"
Terry figured he could use a smoke before he went back to talk to Ron. He sat on the outside patio and watched as smoked gathered around his head. "I just wish people like Ron would drop dead" he said to no one who was present. Terry finished his smoke, kicked the but with a quick flick of the wrist and went back in to talk to Ron.
Terry came around the corner into the break-room. As he walked in he noticed a hat sitting on a chair when Ron had been. On the floor Ron was still choking on his own tongue. "RON! What the FUCK!" Terry knelt down and watched as Ron was squirming around like a snake.
"SOMEONE CALL 911!!!" Terry shouted not sure if anyone heard. Ron was grasping his own throat. Terry could see him turning blue. Ok, cub-scouts....what did they teach me? Terry thought....pull his tongue out....."fuck that" said a voice in the back of Terry's head....I am notsticking my finger in his mouth....HE IS BLUE! "People are not blue" Terry sad to himself and despite the voice he put his finger in Ron's mouth. Ron, bit down and cut through both flesh and bone. terry screamed again looking down and saw his finger hangin out of Ron's mouth as he put a stump in his mouth out of instinct."That fucker bit my fucking finger off!"
The old timer who was screamin for a beer came to the back, still holding his bud-light. "Holy mother of christ! What the hell are you guys doin back here!"
The sirens screamed as they came up on the Thirsty Toad....Ron was very dead by the time they got to him. Terry's finger was hanging out of his mouth and his eyes were looking into a void only the dead know. The driver pulled out Terry's finger and wrapped it in an ice pack. His partner shot Ron full of drugs to try and cure his condition.....Ron would never serve a drink again.
Terry was sitting in ER. The doctor had come in 5 minutes before and told him his finger was going to be tossed in the waste bin....Not in so many words but to Terry the eloquent words were nothing. The doctor may as well have said "Your finger will be used to make hot dog meat"
At least I am tough Terry though as the nurse came to lead him into surgery so he could gain some staples and a nice prescription to kill the throbbing pain n his hand.

Sunday, June 27, 2010


I wonder if the world has lost it's mind at times....
We watch as religion continues to equal the killing of others. We watch as science is discarded unless it is the only way to save our own lives. We watch as politicians lie to us or shoot each other down over issues that have nothing to do with the people who will be effected by the winner. We watch as big business kills a portion of our planet, all because of the bottom line, then they lie in our faces about the effects. We watch as our social programs fall flat yet a guy who hits a ball, or can throw one into a hole gain money and waste it on houses they will never call home. We watch as actors gain an ego boost and cash value far past what they could ever need yet still they complain because they are not making enough.
We watch as those same famous people say things that will have grave consequences on others when they have no idea what the hell they are talking about. We allow the rich to buy our media outlets and dictate what we will see. We morn the icons as they pass away yet we allow the young and old to die with no mention, or action on our part to stop it at all. We sit in front of our fucking television sets on nice soft chairs and shake our heads while our lips stay closed and our hands are clasped on a remote control rather then doing something to help. We complain about the way our leader can't do enough fast enough while we are too busy to vote or even
write a letter so he can know how we feel.
We have become a nation of spoiled brats.
We watch as gays are beaten by others and we do nothing but watch...We watch as the rights of others are stripped away thinking 'those actions have nothing to do with me', when the same is done to us we wonder why no one else cares.
We have become a nation who lives in a bubble of ignorance.
We have allowed an invisible force to stifle our progression on science and social issues, that same force has also given us a reason to kill those who disagree with us.
We are too busy working to live our own lives. We are too caught up to even pay attention
whether our kids are being taught well,or who their friends are.
We are a nation lost in ourselves with no active interest in our world.
We spend more time worried about how others view us than thinking about how we see ourselves.
The only way this is going to change is if we spend more time looking in the mirror instead of judging the reflections of others as we complain about the glass being dirty.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

My side of Tonya

Guest Blog...From Polly...another opinion of a certain Diva
Category: Dreams and the Supernatural
A blog from my another person who knows a certain diva quite well. She considered her a good friend (as did I) To be honest we were stabbed in the back and Amanda you should feel like shit over your inability to be honest. When you look in the mirror I hope your reflection spits in your face. You are too weak for your own good.

I haven't really said to much lately concerning the latest "drama" and now, I feel like it's time I do. I've sat back and let Reap do the talking, and followed with my comments. We have been dealing with bullshit from a Ghost Diva, named Tonya H. She has done nothing but bad mouth us, and try and play the pity card with whatever damn followers she has. Here is my statement, straight from my mouth.

Contrary to what Tonya, may want you to think, I am writing this of my own free will. Reap doesn't even know I'm writing it. I will admit, I am more passive then Reap at times, I'm not him, and he is not me. We both have different ways of dealing with things. Doesn't mean we both don't see bullshit in our yard, we just get rid of it in different styles.

When this crap with Tonya started I bit my tongue, because I cared deeply for another diva. She was a friend that I trusted. Well, now I am going to speak my mind, and if others don't like it there's not a damn reason for me to care.

Tonya, has put many lies out there, and it's about time I step up to the plate and say what the fuck is up. First and foremost, Tonya implied Reap beats me. Does he? Nope! He has never struck me period. I watched my mother growing up get hit, and that is one thing I would never allow a man to do to me. I find it highly insulting as a woman, that Tonya feels that is the only card she has to hold against me. Strength as a woman, is a hell of a lot more then being a single parent, and having a big fucking mouth. Strength as a woman to me means, I love my family, I support them, and when I walk out my front door I have a clear conscience. Reap knows the love I have for him, and he also knows I am my own person.
I am no ones puppet.

The lies she has spread from there get more slanderous. Reap being in prison, never happened. Reap buys his daughter drugs, nope again. That he threatened her kids is the one that really is a kick in the ass. If Reap targets someone, it is for a reason. His threats are never of physical harm, or directed towards anyone other then the screwed up person that caught his attention. He will ride your ass, and expose you for whatever you are doing wrong. Nothing more, and nothing less. He hasn't come to the point he's at for lying. Is he ruthless? Yes, he is when it's called for. If he accuses you of something, he can back it up, you can bet your life on that.

Seems the latest attack is Reap being a drunkard, and drug addict. Um okay whatever. He drinks beer, and like most things can drop it on a dime. Just cause someone likes beer doesn't make you and alcoholic don't you think Tonya? As I recall you drink as well. The next is he's a drug addict......Listen to our show stupid shit, we addressed that one as well. We talk openly about our past. We have done drugs in the past but are both clean now. In fact, I was asked to be a speaker at a N.A. meeting, so judge us, then you judge Faye as well. Go ahead, knock her down for her recovery. Oh wait, that's different or is it? Not in my book.

Now last, if you want to send people to defend you please pick someone smarter then Lucille. She's a moron. Where is all your other "back up buds" to fight for you? Sure, some of the weaker minded people dropped us, but they sure in the hell aren't speaking up. No one is speaking up for you other then Laurel Lee and Lucille.

Boy Tonya great job! You know you kinda remind me of the Paranormal Police. How's that you ask? Well they too were to chicken shit to stray from their page, and their followers to handle the real truth. Something you know nothing about.

In closing....Tonya Fuck Off!

Monday, June 14, 2010

The Diva Factor

I have been addressing the lies of Ghost Diva Tonya H...sorry I can not use her last name because I have been informed by Myspace my account will be deleted if I keep posting about her using her full name.
The reason for this?? Tonya and her little group of followers are pissed at me...wonder why? It is because I have stood up to her and the rest of The Ghost Divas, and I have told the truth.
No worries on one hand because I have copies of emails that will present these 'ladies' as they really are. They are a group of bullies who should be ashamed of what they have done to the paranormal community, and just people in general.
I know some readers may not like the things I say and that is okay...I have talked some serious shit about some people, but I have always been honest or made the point that my point is just my opinion. Even Chris Moon and those who associate with him have not been so low-handed as the Divas, I will give them credit for that.
I have been honest and admitted when I have been wrong. I have not attacked people for no good reason, I have not told lies or made up stories about people. I have gone out of my way to make sure people who were doing wrong were at least given a chance to give their side.
I was a part of The Ghost Divas at one time, I know how they work, and I am ashamed to say I was a part of them as I look back. Now as I think about the the way they work and have become a victim of the poison they try to makes me sad and I am sorry I ever had a part in their evil and egotistical ways.
The root of all this?? In my opinion it is Tonya H....she is a lunatic. She cares not what she has to say to keep her ego growing, she will continue to lie in order to make herself look smart or she will play the victim to make people pity her. She is the lowest common denominator.
Tammy of the Divas? Tonya's buddy for ten years and told me in an email that Tonya 'has not lied in the ten years she has known her'.....does anyone else see the fault in a statement like that?
Sure the Divas want you to think they are a united front but I have been inside the little click and I can tell you this is not the case.
Amanda W? well the Divas talked shit behind her back as she was welcomed into the group.It is the way they work.
The Divas want to try and make me look like shit? I have a hundred stories to tell and I will tell each one day by day.
I tell the fucking truth and I ask the paranormal community...would you rather have the truth or a group of bullies telling lies and starting shit to make innocent people look bad? It is your call.......The time for being afraid of The Ghost Divas is over it is time to stand up if you don't then you get what you deserve. I have no stake in this I have moved on doing my own thing and it is working out quite well, but I will continue to address this my spare time.

Friday, June 11, 2010

Chill Out

It has come to my attention someone may be threatening Ghost Diva Tonya's kids. I will ask whoever has been doing this, if it is true, to please stop.
I have been receiving emails, texts from unknown people on my phone, and comments on my blogs all telling me that they too are tired of Tonya's big mouth. She has pissed many, many people off.
That does not excuse any threats towards her or her family.
Violence is the first resort of the stupid and the last resort of the intelligent. If anyone wishes to address any problems they have with Tonya I would suggest the do it in a way so that she gets the point without being threatened.
I don't know if her claims are true because she has told so many lies up to now, but I figure it would be better for me to ask for it to stop just in case.
I will also take the time to ask Tonya-- What she thinks is going to happen when she just keeps spouting off? Does she really think no one is ever going to call her on her lies and need for attention. It is one thing to stand up for what you believe is right, it is quite another when you create a huge mess built on lies and smart-ass comments and then start painting yourself a a poor 'victim' when someone calls you on it. You are a victim of your own big mouth. You have been building clouds for a long time and now that a storm hits, you complain it is raining too hard.
I have 3-4 times tried to get this shit to end but Tonya can not leave it alone. That is fine I will not be trying to end it again. I will keep standing up to lies told about myself and others. I will keep talking, writing, and doing parody until I feel like things have been addressed as they need to be. I will not nor have I ever threatened a person's children...I have children myself. I have had people tell me they are going to rape my daughter, murder my family, or bomb my house. The difference here is those people were upset because when I build a storm I use the truth as an umbrella and I don't care how hard it rains.........

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Watch, See, and Learn

I'm going to tell you about something I have been dealing with lately. I think many of you may have been through this before in some aspect of your life.
I don't go around bad-mouthing people for no good reason. I do not just pick a target and attack them for the hell of it. If I have an issue with someone or their actions I will contact them about things first. I will simply inquire about the problems I have and ask them for their side or opinions. I do this to be fair. Most times this works out quite well and results in my understanding the other side of things and the other party understanding mine as well. Now, the exception.....some people respond with lies and want to play games because they have issues with the truth, this does not go over well with me.
I will then usually start talking publicly about the experience. In this case my doing so resulted in bold-face lies being told about me...That does not go over well with me either.
Some people believe in just ignoring these types of people. There are times when that is the best way to go but there are other times when the lies are so off-base and the person telling them so insane that addressing those lies is a needed and earned thing. I don't really care if people call me a jerk or an asshole, or any other names, I have heard them all. When people make up lies about the way I treat my family or raise my kids then I will have something to say about that.
That is the case here.
One aspect of this current topic is the amount of people who can not or will not see both sides. I have lost some 'friends' over this person's lies. It was nice to see them go because I have no use for people who choose who they like according to another person's bullshit and anger. The people who choose not to have anything to do with me because I stand up for myself are, in my opinion, weak-minded and uninformed, by their own choice.
I don't make up bullshit lies about people, when a person does so, they have already lost. The loss is not only about the argument but about their own credibility, dignity, and self-worth.
There is nothing wrong with a little drama in our lives but when that drama results from hate and is not healthy.
Some people seem to have a need for drama, it effects them like a drug, they can't control their own need to continue to use, even as it drags them, and the people around them down.
People like this are very sad indeed.....I am just glad I can look at my face in the mirror and know I don't need or want to make up lies just to make myself look good.
I suppose people who do make up stories and portray themselves as victims when it bites them on the ass may very well be in need of mental help. I hope they get it but it will not keep me from pointing out those lies and answering to them.
I have always stood up for myself and done it with a sense of humor along with the truth, that will never stop being the case and anyone who doesn't like it or thinks I am a liar can watch, see, and learn..then they can go to hell.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

The Pucket Ghost Mess

This is a guest blog from Bryan Bonner of Rocky Mountain Paranormal and Warning Radio

The Ghouli Investigation (from their site)

5-2006- To date, with internet advances and easy access to video casts across the globe, the Pucketts Video continues to this day to get media attention. I continue to get emails about this footage and the questions are still lingering. To date: the footage has been put to the test on National TV, making appearances on shows such as "Fact or Fiction"... a team of special effects artist were able to provide a very nice example while attempting to re-create the image. But keep in mind, it took them several months to even come close to debunking it. What do you think?


Puckett's Auto Body Shop was investigated by GHOULI after being contacted by the owners who captured the now infamous video tape of what appeared to be a full blown apparition on their security cameras.

This footage is known across the world as the Salvage Yard Apparition, Junk Yard Ghost, Junk Yard Apparition and so on.. it is nationwide.

Tonya Hacker, of GHOULI, was one of the first people on the scene as the story broke and has been in contact with the owners throughout all the supposed recreations of the video by skeptics who have tried to debunk the validity of the video. She has also been witness to other teams of investigators who have conducted their own investigations of the property.


GHOULI has been tracking this video & the reports since it was introduced to the world on September 2002. As of this time we are unable report a "haunting" of any kind at Pucketts Auto Body. Our team and a few other teams we have worked with stand by our findings and decision. Without more substantial evidence of a continuous haunting, we have decided not to base our findings on "ghosts" at this time.

This will not be an extensive report, because we feel that everyone should make up their own mind, about this infamous video. Some of the opinions that will be posted are those shared by the GHOULI team, and are not to be taken as slander or any sort of bashing to anyone within the paranormal community. These are our findings, and we have worked really hard not to be influenced by any other team or what they have reported.

GHOULI was contacted in September 2002 to view a surveillance video of a possible "ghost" caught on film.

Tonya went to take a look at the video, and was introduced to the media world very quickly, along with the owners and staff of Pucketts Auto body.

GHOULI conducted & assisted a few investigations at this location, no evidence of a haunting was present at any of the many investigations we conducted or assisted in.

During the investigation GHOULI used various techniques to collect evidence to help them in make a final decision on this location. GHOULI used video recording equipment, photography, EMF meters, audio equipment and temperature meters to help them paint a larger picture of what is going on at Puckett's Auto & Body Shop


Photographs - We did capture a few orbs while at this location, but they were dismissed because of natural elements, such as dust, moisture, reflective objects within the yard, and did we say dust?

Video - We did obtain a few video images of orbs & other light anomalies, but these images were also ruled out because of outside contaminants & the many reflective objects within the yard. Images were easily re-created.

Audio - No EVP were captured at this location. Although numerous attempts were conducted.

Other - EMF readings were taken at this location, but there is not data to back up any EMF readings that were taken. Temperature readings are not valid, because this location is outdoors.


PLEASE NOTE: You must obtain written permission to show this video on your website. This video is copywritten by © Pucketts Auto Body & Salvage CPuckett. Publishing this video without written consent from C. Puckett is illegal, and violators will be pursued. Feel free to analyze this version, but sharing files is prohibited.


GHOULI is not making public the details of this story. The family members choose to believe that the image captured is the image of their loved one who died in a fatal car accident. The victim is believed to have "returned to her vehicle after she had passed away, and her image was caught on tape, while she searched for her truck or personal belongings". PLEASE NOTE: The resemblance of this woman is uncanny, and enough to make you think twice!


The video has been sent many reputable sources within the community. As to date none of these sources have been able to explain the video, much less recreate it.

Is it a doll or mannequin? - GHOULI assisted well known investigator & author Richard Senate in a recreation experiment of the video. The rumor was that there was a doll like object dangled in front of the camera to create the image of the floating woman. To be honest, using the rumored method and actually witnessing this attempt, is rather amusing. There were no similarities between the actual image & the experiments that took place. GHOULI can report that the fishing line and "doll" theory is not a valid lead.

Was it created with computers? - Other people tried to recreate the video with video imaging / editing or special effects. This was attempted by many, and digitally recreating the image, without spending thousands of dollars has not been done. Attempts have not shared any similarities so until someone is willing to spend the mounds of money to recreate this effect, the implanted or digitally mastered theory still stands open. Where's Hollywood special effect pro's when you need them?

Was it a hoax by Puckett's Auto and Body Shop? - GHOULI feels that Puckett's had no reason to create this image, they are a established local and thriving business , the need for extra publicity is not desired. To create publicity for business has been ruled out by GHOULI, during the media whirlwind the owners stated "we are just ready to get back to normal, and get some work done".

What do video experts say about it? - The video has been sent off to many video editing groups across the nation. None of which can recreate or explain the video on a technical level, as of date the video still stand as "unexplainable". Video Surveillance specialists have been contacted, and were not able to explain the video. If you can offer an explanation of this video or a valid claim in recreating the video, please contact GHOULI ASAP

Is Pucketts Haunted?- NO not by this particular image

As to the "haunting" of Puckett's, We found no evidence of continuous haunting at this location. We feel that the image was a once in a lifetime glimpse of the possibility of ghostly phenomena. The video has raised a few eyebrows in the paranormal community, and within the general public.

We have obtained & witnessed many "psychic" reports that the woman in the video still resides at the salvage yard along with other "ghosts", we found no substantial evidence to back up this claim. There are no reports of any other paranormal activity from Pucketts staff in the past or the present, and the image has yet to return on the surveillance cameras, and the folks who monitor this equipment, are watching a little more carefully these days.

The video as of date, is one of the most compelling pieces of "ghost" activity that we have witnessed. Until the video is explained, we can only believe that the video is authentic, and truly unexplainable in this community.

GHOULI has developed a friendship with the owner of Pucketts, and we are updated as the video thrives to be explained. In closing, there have been many teams that have investigated this location, and there have been reports that the "lady in the video" is still there. Because the video was nationally publicized, and the personal story involved, any "psychic" impressions taken are difficult to accept as valid information to this case.

From the Rocky Mountain Paranormal Site:

We have worked to determine the credibility of the now famous "Ghost Video" Taken in the Puckett Auto storage lot.

The story is that on an evening in September 2002 the persons on duty at the Auto & Body Shop noticed a "ghost" on the surveillance camera in one of their lots. That evening (around 2:00a.m.) there were 2 people working and one went to check on the lot after seeing the image on the monitor and they did not see anyone in the area of the lot that they saw the image.

A local paper carried the story:
Employees at a Metro wrecker service claim they've been visited by a spirit from beyond.
What may be even more incredible is this ghost sighting was actually caught on surveillance video. And those who have seen the eerie image, say they know why their ghost has made an appearance. This story has a lot of folks talking. It certainly does. Whether or not you believe in ghosts, what was caught on tape in this wrecker yard certainly has people questioning whether spirits exist. Cathy, couldn't believe her eyes. What was that image she just saw? She sent one of her employees out to investigate, he found nothing, the image had vanished. But a video surveillance camera caught the mysterious object on tape.
Chris Puckett runs the family business, part of which stores vehicles involved in deadly traffic accidents. Others at Puckett’s theorize this image is that of a woman involved in a horrible wreck that took her life several weeks ago. Her insurance company moved the wreckage of her truck just hours before the image was caught on tape.
Folks here have tried to come up with explanations of what the image is. So far, nothing explains what Cathy saw and what was caught on tape.

KFOR, a local TV channel reported that a family came forward about the video claiming that it was their daughter:
OKLAHOMA CITY - Employees at a local wrecker service claim they've been visited by a ghost. Oklahoma’s News Channel Four first showed you the surveillance videotape on Wednesday.
Those who work at Puckett's in southwest Oklahoma City believe the image is that of a woman involved in a fatal accident.
Now, family members of that woman have come forward, convinced the sighting is their lost loved one sending them a message.
Tracy Martin died from her injuries June 30th. But, her family believes she came back 18 days later to let them know she's okay. They say that is exactly how Tracy did things, in grand style.
Tracy Martin's father, brother and husband are convinced the videotaped image is that of the 33-year-old mother of twins.
Tracy's truck was moved from Puckett's wrecker yard July 17 from the area the surveillance camera records. Overnight dispatcher Kathy Henley saw the image live on her monitors.
A family portrait shows Tracy in her favored overalls. Tracy's husband, Brent, now has the awesome task of rearing their twins alone.
A police investigation into Tracy Martin's car wreck revealed she was not wearing a seat belt. Had she been buckled in, in the investigating officer's opinion, her injuries would not have been fatal.

The original group investigating was G.H.O.U.L.I. who determined that the video might be a "Once in a lifetime glimpse of the possibility of ghostly phenomena" but that the video could not be created without a large budget and digital F/X.

Many Paranormal researchers including Richard Senate have viewed the recording and many are convinced that the tape is an authentic ghost video.

We contacted Pucketts to see if we could get a copy of the recording.
We received the video and started the investigative work.
It was determined that the video camera that recorded the image was a low resolution camera and was located outside of the lot on a light pole.
The video itself lasts for 29 seconds and when the image appears in the frame it seems to drop down into the image and the again move off camera rather than just disappear.
While viewing the video we noticed that in one frame, what appears to be a support line is visible holding up the ghost.
While trying to determine what the support line could be, we came up with the idea of the image being created by an old stage illusion called Peppers Ghost

Definition: Peppers Ghost
Peppers Ghost was created in the 1862 by John Pepper. The illusion is caused by reflecting a brightly light object into a piece of glass that is placed at a 45 degrees to the plane of the viewer. This can be a stage audience or a camera. The reflection of the object will appear as a transparent object.

The most famous use of the Peppers Ghost effect is in the Disneyland Haunted Mansion Ballroom set. The viewers of this illusion are able to see an entire ballroom that has animated transparent ghostly figures.

We recreated the Junkyard video by using the Peppers Ghost effect. We used a Radio Shack low light camera with roughly the same resolution, a G.I. Joe 5 inch action figure, some black string, a flashlight to recreate the light at the top of the pole and a 2x3 piece of Plexiglas. The result was almost an exact match, the only noticeable difference was the shape of the character.
After looking at our recreation we decided that the illusion would have been just as easy to create by just dangling a figure in front of the camera. This would cause the same effect because of the figure being out of focus because of its proximity to the camera as well.

Our latest comments:
She does not mention that the Pen and Teller's television show Bullshit (season one DVD extras) was the team that they work with Richard Senate on and the conclusion from that show was that it was a fake and that Richard Senate was a complete freak show. He claims to have the "most sensitive E.M.F. meter ever made" and he made it. His Psychic that accompanied him was an absolute comic, she was crying and claiming that the ghost was too strong and she could not continue with the communication. A quote from Mr. Senate... "I think we have a ghost here".

In the report they keep mentioning "orbs" but then state that they were dismissed because of natural elements. why mention orbs in the first place? does that mean that they think that some orbs are paranormal?

They claim that the "resemblance of this woman is uncanny, and enough to make you think twice".... This statement is about a family who came forward and claimed that their daughter who had been killed in a car accident who's car was in the lot at the time of the video. This is sad because of two things. The family who came forward was featured on the local news and instead of getting their grieving process started because of the need for the media to pursue this ridiculous claim.
If you look at the video you can not make out any details of the "ghost" other than it is a human like shape.

They state that "The video has been sent to many reputable sources within the community. As to date none of these sources have been able to explain the video, much less recreate it." This is an outright lie. Penn and Teller showed how it was done and so did we.

There statement that the doll video that Mr. Senate attempted was amusing is accurate, but the video itself was proof itself in the way that the video was made.

They state that "many psychic reports that the woman in the video still resides at the salvage yard along with the other ghosts, we found no substantial evidence to back up the claim" Does that mean that they have been able to back up the claims of "psychics" on other cases?

We were give a copy of the original tape by the owner of the Junkyard and after analyzing it we produced a DVD that showed that it was not a ghost and was in fact a fake. We also told them that we were not saying that it was faked by them but it was a fake.
The owner of the Junkyard contacted us and said that we were wrong and that he was going to get the truth, so he forwarded our DVD to National Geographic. They looked at our analysis and decided that it completely explained the video, so they flew us to Washington to the National Geographic studios and we spent a day recreating it for them. This show aired on the National Geographic Channels show "Is it real".
A link to a copy of our segment of the show:

We had Tonya H on WARNING: Radio at the end of last year and she claimed that just after the first of the year they had "breaking news" about what the video really was.
We then asked what she had thought about our explanation of the video and the NatGeo show, and she said that she had never heard our analysis or seen the show. We explained it to her and she said that we were not right in our analysis.

We are now six months later we have still not heard anything about the "real facts" behind the video.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

The Ghost Divas

I have an issue with Tonya Hacker....she has told lies about me. She has talkled shit behind my back, she has gone onto the Ghost Divas facebook and told more lies, she ranted about me on her radio show. Did I call her and tell her to fuck off?? You are damn right I did, not because I was bored but because the things she has said about me were a load of shit..The biggest issue I have with this is not so much Tonya Hackers big mouth...she is an idiot and I will deal with her in my own way. The one thing that bothers me the most is the fact the rest of the Divas want to 'stay out of it' That would be all well and good if there were a difference of opinion between Tonya Hacker and myself, that is not the case here. This is a plain and easy to understand case of Tonya Hacker making up stories because she is a mental case. I have told the damn truth and have not ONE TIME made up lies about Tonya Hacker. Yea I could have made up some grand stories about her but I do not work that way. I have stood up for some of The Ghost Diva clan on many occasions. People saying things like one was a child molester...I stood up and did my part to stop what I thought was wrong. When Ron Tebo was talking shit over the whole 'Donna' issue I came up on him and did my part to get him to STFU. When the Melon head was rolling up I told that bitch to shut her yap too.When someone made a page called 'The Ghost Pigs' I got it removed....there are a dozen other stories like this to be told. I produced The Ghost Diva's show because I liked them, I thought they were my friends. Now when Tonya tells outright lies about me being in prison, giving my daughter drugs, me abusing my girlfriend....none of the divas want to say a word...they all just look the other way??? That is fine, at least I know how the Divas work now....the claims they make about truth are all a load of bullshit. All the shit people said about them turns out to be true...that is some sad shit. I will keep trusting people despite it biting me on the ass in this case.

Thursday, June 3, 2010


I think about my death sometimes...usually when I have had too much to drink. Who hasn't?
When I was young the thought of leaving this world caused me to be afraid, now, as I have grown older it only makes me sad. I will miss the life I have here even if I don't carry on my last thoughts will be about how I will miss the people I have never met and about the things I never got to say as well as the things I never found the time or means to do. As for the people I have met there will be no sorrow for them I just hope my memory carries on in their minds until it is their time to go.
I want my death to be a celebration of my time on earth, I want people to smile and rejoice in my time on earth and the memories they have of me. i have been able to live in a grand time, I have been lucky to have met some wonderful people, I have had an awesome time wondering through this world. To be so 'blessed' and able to reach out and touch so many lives is a very rare thing.My death will not be the end of anything, it will be the beginning of memories

Monday, May 31, 2010

The Bar

I am sitting in a hole in the wall bar. Yea I drink, but I know my limitations so don't so don't worry about me. So far I have met some great new people. There is the guy who cooks great tacos outside on the patio and the old timer who was talking to me about Philosophy the last time I was here, and he pulled off the conversation quite well.
This evening I got a handshake and a hug from him so I must have held up my end of our last conversation quite well. This evening I got a handshake and a hug from him so I must have held up my end of our last conversation too.
There is the weightlifter sitting to my left who is worried about inviting his girlfriend down to drink with him because he doesn't want trouble. Funny thing is he could beat the shit out of anyone in the bar with one damn hand. There are the fellas to the right of me who have said hello but otherwise had their eyes glued to the flat screen over the bar. Even the loudmouth regular who hates the music I play in the jukebox has been cool tonite.
Some people think they can judge me because I drink. They can but I have learned to drink slow, and go to bed when it starts to hit me. My Dad taught me this even though I am pretty sure he didn't mean too. I like to hang out, whether it is in a friendly bar or in front of a sidewalk cafe in the city, and watch the people go by.
I sit sipping beers and talking to my fellow drinkers as they pass through. Every one has a story and I love to hear every single one. Even though I can talk til the heavens burn listening is one of my favorite pastimes. I have heard incredible stories from people all over the country, people of all ages and lifestyles. Our bartender does a benefit cookout for Breast cancer and I will be happy to help him anyway I can on our radio show.
There is the fellow who asked permission to talk to my girlfriend about our laptop. The request was met with a laugh, and a smile. He was a nice guy named Felix and he was looking for a laptop to buy for his Grand daughter. I was glad to meet him, we parted with another laugh and a handshake.
The weight lifter I mentioned earlier came up on me at the jukebox and asked me to play styx, I was happy to oblige him. A pitcher of beer landed in front of us not long after, a handshake, and a thank you followed. I went out to have a smoke and heard a classic story about a guy who likes to ask homeless people for cigarettes and when they give him one he gives them ten bucks. There is a group of guys from out of state playing the pool table asking me where they can find the nearest country bar.....I gave them directions, that was an hour ago, they are still playing pool now.
I go outside to smoke a cig and a drunk girl is telling a story about ending up 50 miles from home and calling her Dad to pick her up. The story was told at decibels which would rival a jet airplane on take off. I just nodded smiling and smoking as fast as possible.
My new weight lifter friend who is named Sam is at this moment telling me how to shoot steroids. I don't like needles and with all likely hood I will never have use of his advise, but I listen. My girlfriend who has worked as a personal trainer is talking about concepts beyond my understanding with Sam the weightlifter. The music plays on more, and more people come and go. Some stopping to talk and others just head out the door. I know my limitations, but the number of people I can meet just by listening and watching is unlimited.

Thursday, May 27, 2010

I Remember

I remember digging a hole in the backyard to make an underground clubhouse.

I remember leaning out my bedroom window and tossing a ball to my little sister who was leaning out the bathroom window. My sister didn't catch well. The window broke.

I remember picking peaches off the trees in our backyard.

I remember when my friend let go of the string to my favorite kite.

I remember digging tunnels for my matchbox car city in the front of my house.

I remember falling asleep while I listened to Willie Nelson play on the jukebox my Dad had just bought.

I remember my Mom and me painting my bedroom ceiling black and the walls a deep blue.

I remember building a go cart out of an old lawn mower and a wooden crate.

I remember my mom teaching me how to cut up a whole chicken.

I remember my Dad lighting fireworks off in our backyard.

I remember spending Saturdays with my Dad and getting paid for it.

I remember listening to my sister talk to her friends on the wireless phone with my short wave radio.

I remember watching my new electric train set smoke its way through a figure 8 for hours on end.

I remember watching the pilot light in the hallway heater because there was a ghost in my room.

I remember watching a funnel cloud touch the ground in Utah, and my mother telling my Dad "get us outta here" which was met by a chuckle and a floored gas pedal and the roar of a V-8 in an LTD.

I remember buying a AMC Javelin for $50.00 and learning how to rebuild a carburetor.

I remember riding 30 minutes to a girls house just for the chance she may see me ride by.

I remember forgetting the way home on my first day of school.

I remember falling off the bench seat of my Dads truck and landing on a glass Pepsi bottle, slitting my wrist.

I remember playing football in the street and not caring if we fell down.

I remember cutting my head open running from a girl with a horse head on a broom handle.

I remember listening to puff the magic dragon, over and over on a plastic phonograph which only played 45's.

I remember accidentally hitting my girlfriend in the face with a pair of vice grips while she watched me fix the brakes on my car....Sorry Suzie.

I remember having the longest hair of any guy in school.

I remember my Dad allowing me to have a glass of wine from a bottle which was taller then me.

I remember how proud I was when my Dad put a sign on the side of his pickup the read "Dan Paden and Son Landscaping"

I remember falling off the swing set in the backyard, and breaking off my teeth.

I remember building a tree house and being to afraid to sit in it.

I remember my little sister digging her nails into my arms, whenever we fought.

I remember playing Black Sabbath so loud the neighbors came over to complain.

I remember the sheet my parents used to put up in the hallway so we couldn't see what Santa brought until they woke up.

I remember finding my cat dead on the side of the house.

I remember bowling my first 200 game.

I remember sitting in a old school bus getting drunk and watching my friend punch the windows out.

I remember watching people piss off the balcony of my 3rd floor apartment.

I remember running down the street with my little sister dragging a stolen Christmas tree.

I remember the doctor telling me my son was disabled and expecting me not to want to deal with it.

I remember going on field trips with my daughters classmates.

I remember doing drugs and thinking they hadn't changed who I was (I was wrong).

I remember going to a Iron Maiden concert instead of my girlfriends prom.

I remember lighting wooden park benches on fire and watching with my friends when the fire department came to put them out.

I remember waiting for a trucker to bring me some weed.

I remember paying a pinball game in a Santa Cruz arcade so long it drew a crowd.

I remember losing the tip of my finger to a bowling machine.

I remember when a fish jumped out of my 50 gallon tank and landed on my heated water bed, I really remember the smell.

I remember getting sick on root beer schnapps.

I remember my first kiss at the skating rink.

I remember the first time my Dad punched me (I deserved it).

I remember sneaking my girlfriend in my bedroom window.

I remember learning to ride a bike and splitting open the scar from my wrist injury (See above).

I remember going to buy a dozen donut holes at 2am.

I remember eating sunflower seeds, and reading books for hours on end.

I remember getting to the hospital after my Grandmother had already died.

I remember my Dad waking me up at 2am to talk to me about life.

I remember my Mom telling me I couldn't go outside without shoes, and me running away from home over it.

I remember the day Elvis Presley died.

I remember paying a guy 2 bucks at a Mettalica concert to drink all I wanted from the keg in his van.

I remember finding my sisters boyfriend boyfriend, and my girlfriend making out in her car.

I remember the night my dog Twister died and hearing my Dad cry for the first time over it.

I remember wearing my first Tuxedo for my sisters wedding.

I remember driving 140mph down the freeway racing with my best friend.

I remember being put in a program for gifted children, and wondering what was wrong with me.

I remember beating the shit out of a guy for making fun of my little sisters teeth.

I remember the Vice principal telling my Dad I was in need of mental help, and my Dad telling her to go to hell.

I remember soaking a tennis ball in gasoline, lighting it and kicking it up and down the street.

I remember training dogs and winning a first place trophy at the dog show.

I remember my sister firing me from my fast food job because I ditched my shift to go see AC/DC.

I remember coming home and finding my apartment empty, and my daughter gone.

I remember many things. They have made me who I am, and I cherish every memory.

Tonya Hacker- Truth be told

Listen to the story of Tonya Hacker and her need for drama. Even after people tell her to stop making trouble she just goes on and on.

Listen Here-

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Tonya it again

Here is my dramatic story this week.
I had an argument with a lady named Tonya Hacker. She was telling some friend of hers that I was abusing my girlfriend and this friend of Tonya's came at me and my girlfriend like a lunatic. She went on rants to us in emails saying I was going to be raped by satan and a bunch of other crazy shit. We didn't know where this crazy woman was getting her information so we started asking people we thought were our friends. Tonya was one of them. Tonya at first denied knowing anything...then we informed her that other friends of hers had assured her she did know this lunatic. Then Tonya admitted she had been talking about me to her crazy friend. All the emails are documented in one of my blogs which was written on April 2nd 2010. I wrote that blog and left it alone after that.
Last week my girlfriend, Polly was contact by another person we thought was our friend named Amanda. Amanda told Polly that Tonya had contacted her to have Polly tell me to remove Tonya's name from my blog titles. Tonya was looking for a job and my blogs came up when her name was searched on google. I thought about it and figured I had said my peace so I would change the titles. I did. Not long after a couple of pages making fun of and just plain hating The Ghost Divas popped up. Tonya and Amanda are members of the Ghost Divas. While I was not fond of Tonya still I did not think what was being done and said was fair. I contacted one of the page creators and he agreed to remove the page making fun of the Divas, it portrayed them as pigs.
Then I went to the creator of the other site and started to talk smack about how the guy was off base in his hate of the Divas in this case. I had dealt with this guy before and used the appropriate methods (with help from others) to try and get him to remove the page, it worked.
Tonya contacted me about how I had gone about getting the pages removed and I told her. She asked for a recording of the call, I didn't have one and even if I did it was over so why she asked for it made the little voice in my head say...."look out, she wants more drama"
The day after the pages went away I got a ranting email from Tonya about how I had not changed the blog titles. I had changed the titles but I had not gone through the emails and removed her name from the emails she had sent, besides it takes time for goggle to update search findings sometimes. I do not have control over the google search engine.
I told Tonya I would look and make sure they were changed...before I could Amanda sent a reply. (she had been copied in) Amanda's reply was that both Polly and myself were liars.
Like I said, we had considered Amanda a friend and were shocked that she would accuse us of being liars. Why would I lie, and what had Polly said which could be considered a lie? She had just passed the request on to me.
Some emails went back and forth and I had grown tired of Tonya's rants and accusations. I then informed her I would be changing the titles back, after all she obviously had no trust in the fact I had done so when she ask yet she called a liar so what would the difference be?
I then tried to call address this. She in true form avoided the call. So I left her a voice mail telling her to fuck off I was sick of her shit. She had started this whole mess by telling lies about me.
Then Tonya proceeds to go to her webpage and start cackling about how I give my daughter booze and weed. I don't know where to get any weed because I don't smoke it. As far as the booze goes my daughter has come home drunk a couple of times, she is 17. I did the same thing when I was her age and it was dealt with in the way I saw fit so that it would not happen again.
Any real parent know when your kids get to a certain age you can not control their behavior at all times. I guess Tonya is not aware of this even though she has two children.
Then today I hear from my friends Tonya is posting on her Ghost Divas facebook page that I had been to prison and that I was stalking her. I have not been to prison. I have been to jail a couple of times but it was a city jail, and the the second time the charges were dropped. None of my crimes were any more than health code violations meaning I went to jail for crimes of substance abuse. I learned to change my behavior and I am doing very well at sticking with those changes.
The thing that strikes me as odd about all of Tonya's claims about me is she lives in Oklahoma.....I live in California. I met Tonya one time in person for about an hour. She didn't ask me my life be honest she was having an issue controlling her youngest daughter and was a bit distracted.
How Tonya managed to believe she has intimate knowledge about my personal life...well I don't know she seems to just make things up at random.
There are a couple of things which bother me the most about Tonya and her need to lie and create drama. It drags the rest of the Ghost Divas down....I do not hate all the Divas, but I will not allow them in any form to come up on me as a group unchecked. Tonya seems intent on making this happen. The only reason I can think is because Tonya likes drama.
Another thing is the fact that Tonya is supposed to be an adult and responsible for her actions...she has lied and I have told the truth. when I called her on it she starts to tell more lies and cry like a little child, it is pathetic.
Now it seems Tonya will be playing my voice mail on her radio show, I hope she does I am glad I could provide her another way to show her true form.She had after all been searching for a phone call to play before I called her, hadn't she? My little voice tells me "I told you so"
Now I am done unless Tonya wants to continue is her choice.
That concludes this week's drama....I hope

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Tonya have been warned about her

So Tonya Hacker got made cause I wrote a blog about her .....well the problem is she is a moron....I would not hire her to watch over my tomato plants....she lies and lies and lies I don't want to come off as a hater I am just telling the truth.....funny thing is many agree with me so if you are looking to be friends, associate or otherwise deal with Tonya Hacker.....think twice . You have been warned.

Wednesday, May 19, 2010


My life is strange. Not a bad kind of strange but strange none the less. The people I have met along my travels have been for the most part, nothing less then incredible. I have met some real jerks but the majority have become my friends.
Sure we have different opinions about things but isn't that why we like them in the first place?
I had tonight a woman call me who had no idea who I was, in real life. She called me just to talk. We spoke on the phone for about 20 minutes and she was nothing less then wonderful. It trips me out the way some people shy away from my personality and others will call me just to "chat"! I think this speaks to the differing mind sets in the world. It defines the way we all see people and things in an alternate light. I also think this is a good thing.
If we all thought about people and issues the same way our lives would be very boring indeed, what I like about my dealings with people are the types of people I meet.....Did I say that? It cannot be said enough times. There are those who believe in ghosts to those who think Jesus was a son of a bitch, and they all get at least a few minutes of my time. There are times when people expect me to be their attack dog that is not me. I do not just attack people while they are doing things that may be considered wrong or unfair. I will never roll up on anyone "just because."
There is a method to what may be considered my madness, it is about truth, at least in perspective. It is about doing right, it is about thinking about the thoughts of other people. We all think we know it all, well we may in our own minds, but we donnot know the truth of every person. That is the only truth there is when it comes to opinion.
If we think we know it all then that is a thinking even stranger then my life and that is hard to find.

Sunday, May 16, 2010

After Life

There are different types of Atheists. There are some who simply dismiss the possibility of God, then there are some who just do not believe in God because God has not been proven to exist. I had someone ask me if there could possibly be an after life and a God.I thought about this for a while and figured I would write about it too.
I don't claim to know if there is a God or not. I also know that in my opinion there is no proof of God or an after life. There is no proof that we will meet up with our loved ones who have passed away and there is no proof we carry on in any way. Again this is not to say that doesn't happen but from what I have learned so doesn't.
Maybe we will learn as we go along whether our spirit goes on, maybe we are not meant to know, or maybe we lack the ability to understand the full scope of reality. I don't know. Now it may seem pretty bleak so far, well I don't see it that way. I see it like this...
It really doesn't matter if there if there is a life after the one we have here on earth.
We should live the life we have here the best we can and try not to take for granted the life we know exists. Love our family and friends while they are with us because we never know when the time with them will be done. If we do this then any after life will be a bonus if there is none, it wont matter.

Ronnie James Dio

I remember my youth and most of all the music of it. I got into Black Sabbath at about age 14. Ozzy was one of my rare heroes. Satanic music was all the rage, if it wasn't satanic we twisted the lyrics and song titles, or played it backwards so it fit our evil tendencies.
When I walked into the record store and saw an album cover showing a Satanic looking figure looming over a mountain top holding a chain which was attached to a priest flailing around in fear for his life, I had no choice but to buy it. I listened to the voice, the music and the message, I was hooked by Ronnie James Dio. He felt the same about religions and society as I did, he was the best friend I had never met before.
When the Holy Diver Tour came to town I waited in line to get my tickets. I remember getting a guy to buy my friends and I a bottle of peppermint schnapps at the liquor store. We drank it on the train on the way to the show. I remember saving my friend from choking on pizza as we made a stop at the mall along the way. I remember sitting in line waiting to get into see my friend Ronnie and doing speed right out of the bag while we waited to get in.
Most of all, I remember the show. You know when you are lit off your ass and still the memories with you 25 years later you have been a part of something good. The albums kept coming and I kept buying (or on occasion stealing) them. As the years went by I saw DIO many times and every time the show was awesome.
Ronnie James started to fade away but I did have a chance to see him a few years ago playing with Black Sabbath. He had aged but his vocals were unaffected by the years. Ronnie James Dio died today from cancer and I lost a best friend I never got to meet along with a part of my youth.

Thanks for the music my friend and your memory lives on.

Friday, May 14, 2010

The Art of Being a Jerk

In case you didn't know it, some people think I am a jerk. I am sometimes. I am going to share with you some of my beliefs and they way I go about things ....The art of being a jerk,if you will....
I have always figured people deserve some measure of respect until they deserve to loose that respect.
Always listen to the other side of the story, there are always two sides and the truth, almost always lies somewhere in the middle. There are some exceptions to this depending on the mental state of one or both sides.
If both parties in a dispute are reasonable people you can usually chalk up any differences to a misunderstanding of facts or actions.
Talking on the phone or in person for 5 minutes can settle a text-only dispute which has dragged on for 5 years.
Always admit when you are wrong and put more energy into admitting it than you did into
being wrong in the first place.
Never assume you know the real story unless you were personally present for any and all
events involved (and even then you may still be wrong)
Before you speak, write or act out about another persons actions on the Internet,or anywhere else always remember those actions can never be taken back completely, ever.
Remember many people are quite different behind a keyboard than they are in real life. Many times even they are not aware of it.
Do not confuse facts with opinions. For example-
Fact-Helium is lighter than air.
Opinion- Balloons are pretty.
When someone offers an olive branch, never beat them with it. I can not stress this one enough. I have made many very good friends following this rule. It has sometimes caused me to be betrayed but the good FAR outweighs the bad effects of this rule.
Never make up stories or tell lies about people to save face....this one is a duh but I feel like it should be said.
Keep in mind everyone has made mistakes, everyone has baggage, EVERYONE. Anyone who says they have not or don't is lying.
Remember, many people learn from mistakes. Do not hold one mistake (or even two) against a person when they are trying to make things right.
Do not allow a person to say things about you which are untrue unchecked. This is not a good idea because humans have a tendency to view silence as supporting an accusation, besides that you
should have enough self esteem to stand up for yourself. This does not mean becoming an 'instant asshole' it means addressing things true to your form and allowing people to figure out what rings true. If you are honest it does not matter if people believe you or not you know the truth.
Never allow one person's opinion (or a group's even) to drag you down. As long as you can look yourself in the mirror,in the eye for one minute then you usually are doing the best you can do.
There are times when you should keep your mouth shut and listen.....
There are times when no answer is the correct answer. I wish I could give you some hard rules on your instinct is the best I can do.
'Taking the high road' doesn't always mean not addressing things, it is the way you address things which indicates which 'road' your are taking.
Sometimes the low road is the only way to go.....make sure you get back on the right road ASAP, but a little detour can be good at times.
If you follow these rules then you can be assured people will think you are a jerk.....Speaking for myself...I am OK with it....