The Bloggers That Couldn't

This "social justice" thing has a large yellow streak through it

    Ophelia Benson was offered a guest spot on the A-News podcast today. She accepted too.  Then when she learned  the details ( I am a co-host on the show) She pulled out (so to speak) Ophelia has done public speaking before right? So it isn't that she is unable to speak in public. What is it with these people who gleefully libel and slander people left and right showing no ability to grasp the concept of responsible behavior in even its basic form? They can spout off constantly claiming they want the world to be a better place but can't be bothered to actually talk about it with anyone who doesn't already subscribe to their thinking. What is Ophelia Benson worried about? Does she think I am  going to come through her computer monitor and steal all her cat food from her or somethin?  Even if I was a ranting prick to her all she would have to do is hang up. She would then have a REAL example of someone behaving the way she has been claiming. That would also provide her with something else she yearns for. I think you could call it the "holy grail" of freethought blogs , credibility. No one there has it but they all long for it. Over and over again they have tried to claim they possess it but it always turns out to be made out of the same stuff you find in Mr Rodgers neighborhood, make-believe and sock puppets. I find it laughable that any of these 'social justice warriors'  really think that by avoiding human interaction with anyone except those who smile and nod the world is going to give them any consideration. What a huge waste of time. I have a standing offer to anyone who wants to offer their side of things and have a real back and forth conversation. No one can claim I am unable to do anything but rant, all they need to do is take a look at the list of people who have been guests on my podcasts. From christ-followers, to people who claim they can heal burned flesh through a phone text message, psychics, ghost hunters, and even an Oolon. Add to that list the number of well known/not so well known atheists and other guests. I have more than proven myself able to have an adult conversation there is no valid excuse to decline especially if you really believe in the words coming out of your mouth or popping out of your keyboard. I can't imagine what it must be like to not be able to stand up for what you believe in because it is so fragile and weak. If you remove it from the protective wrapper of your warped perception it will be crushed under the weight of common sense, how good could it be really? I don't even disagree with everything they find fault with but we will never find common ground as long as they refuse to exchange ideas and instead only attack or misrepresent. I they can't even manage to find a way to get along with other skeptics and atheists how could they possibly think they can win a battle with religious people over all the things they are hoping to change? Not a chance



 There are some disturbing tendencies among  skeptics/atheists I'd like to bring your attention to

• Banning people for disagreeing. I'm not talking about people making stupid claims like the earth is actually a large piece of bubble-gum. I'm talking about people who think maybe everyone should be treated equally and anyone can be a victim of discrimination. It happens more to some groups than others, but that doesn't mean anyone is immune. Blocking instead of answering valid questions/concerns or to avoid showing what you claim is accurate, or blocking people you are publicly criticizing  in order to keep them from answering to that criticism are also 'in' behaviors among many.  The point has been made that people are allowed to run their web pages as they see fit and I agree but just because they can and do doesn't mean they aren't being a little irresponsible and underhanded. remember when  a skeptic/atheist would trip over themselves to answer someone who questioned their claims or demanded proof? Those days are long gone in some places.

• The redefining of words to fit a certain social movements agenda. A lot of people are abusing the  phrase "definitions change over time" Yes, they do change but if you are aware of that then you should be smart enough to know the old usage doesn't just shrink into a little ball of light and blink out in front of everyone one day and no one sends out regular memos which are posted on front doors to announce any change. It takes time for the most familiar definition to fall out of use if it ever does at all. 

• Paralinguistic cues. This is a widespread problem since we have become more exposed to 'text only' interactions. Language also isn't always easy to understand especially when you are reading the written word. Text does not carry mannerisms or paralinguistic cues . This causes people like Adam Lee to make assumptions and come to incorrect conclusions about other people he has never met. Adam doesn't understand there is always more to a person than what can be guessed by reading a twitter feed or a blog. 

•  Censorship. There have been an incredible amount of attempts to "quiet the opposition"  among some atheist/skeptics. Flagging videos, blocking people before you even have any exchange with them. Character assassinations, shunning, calling for people to pick one side of an issue and force anyone who isn't on your side out of any discussion. Dismissing entire groups of people based on who they choose to interact with rather than considering them based on their actions and words. All these things are counterproductive. Behaving in this manner limits our ability to progress and interact. If you surround yourself with people who agree with you on all aspects of life you start to think your opinion is the most reasonable because everyone you know agrees. Social interaction is complicated and the more open you are to differing opinions the easier it will be to make sure everyone is treated equally.

• The lack of inclination or need to explain your position/conclusions to others. Many skeptic/atheists do not feel it is important to explain why they feel the way they do about certain subjects. They expect others to just 'get it' because it seems so simple to them. Anyone who doesn't fall in line is either the enemy, stupid, or just unworthy of being shown any respect. PZ Myers is a great example of this. Now I know PZ has been very supportive of me and I don't mean to insult him but, to be honest, PZ is like a conceited,  bitter, vindictive, bully. He is far too busy to ever make sure his point is clear or to make a case for his side of an argument. He is to important to be bothered by silly details like being accurate and honest. It is much easier to shut down the critics by shutting off the comments and/or  banning them when (or sometimes before) they  post presenting a counter opinion. If we could harness the condescension  and  arrogance contained in PZ's head it could power 3 states an still be enough to run the intense limelight he thinks constantly shines on him. 

I'd like to also address Ellenbeth Wachs for removing and blocking me without a word. A while back I did a podcast in support of her getting out from under some crap from a  sheriff in Florida. I have had her on as a guest on my podcast because I liked her and I thought the actions taken against her were just plain wrong. I was happy to help her get her story to the public and maybe keep someone else from  going through the same treatment in the future. I  thought we had a mutual respect for each other. I haven't agreed with a lot of what she has been doing/saying lately but I have kept relativity quiet about it. Sometimes it's better if friends don't talk about certain things cause it will only lead to trouble. I found out Ellenbeth had removed me by chance. There was some rude jerk named Matthew who had been hitting me up on PM and asking about  Ellenbeth.  This guy was annoying as hell and I ended up telling him to go fuck himself. I then figured I should pass on to her that some dude was possibly up to no good. I couldn't send the message cause I was blocked. Irony huh? So maybe let that be a lesson to you. Before you start listening to people like Stephanie Zvan and PZ Lyers and allowing them to influence who you associate with based on what could only be described as knowledge from psychic powers , maybe think about the actions of that person. Especially actions taken on your behalf. Or maybe consider your personal interaction with that person more valuable than the opinion of someone who has never met them.  I know for a fact Ellenbeth has shunned several people who have never done her any harm and would have her back  if she needed them, not to mention the harm she has done to her credibility as she isolates herself. I hope she gives pause and thinks about these things. Hopefully before she tries to accuse another good person like Bridget Gaudette of being part of the problem with the skeptic/atheist/feminist movement. Bridget has been a voice of reason among extremes and she has shown far more patience towards critics than I ever could or would. She doesn't deserve all the venom that has been directed towards her much less to have another persons warped perception forced on her.

Stephanie Zvan uses her psychic power to find and hunt down misogynists..or something

  Here is a list of some of the people I've had conversations with on ReapSowRadio and The Angry Atheist podcasts.
This doesn't include everyone, but it is probably about 60% and I think it shows a few of things that contradict the people who want you to believe all I do is scream "motherfucker" into the microphone (PZ Myers) am not smart enough to have a conversation with cause I "just can't get it" (Stephanie Zvan), use language that isn't approved by  Adam 'uptight whiner' Lee (Adam Lee)  or any of the other bullshit claims that I am some fool who rants for no reason whatsoever.(Lousy Canuck, Ed Brayton Ophelia Benson ect ...) I also must be the only person on the planet who gets angry. It could be I'm impossible to get along with for even a short period of time. I'm relatively sure all the people listed below would disagree, that's why they are not the ones making those claims. Funny how the people who can't/won't talk to me seem to think they know the most about me, they all find time to blog about me though don't they? How brave and noble of them they sure know how to get stuff done. .

1.  Hugh Robinson
2. Shay Chandler
3. Anna Johnstone
4. Jim
5. Steve Williamson
6. Aaron Johnson
7. Raving Redal
8. Fandick
9. Luis Fayad
10. Justin Vacula
11. Alicia Vickery
12.  Eric Santiago
13. Chuck E. Jesus
14. Blair Scott
15. The Friendly Atheist
16. Fred
17. Rudy Ruddell
18. RJ Evans
19. Allen Thompson
20. Eric Amundrud
21. Jake Farr-Wharton
22. Brian Allen
23. Sean Rowland
24. Justin Connelly
25. Lewis
26. Bruce Meyer
27. Leighton Allred
28. Amy
29. Lee Moore
30. David Silverman
31. Bryan Bonner
32. Matthew Chapman
33. The Hateful Atheist
34. D.J. Grothe
35. Stu Hayes
36. Joe Zamecki
37. The Godless Bastard
38. Al Stefanelli
39. Dan Fincke
40. Bob Margolese
41. Brian Dunning
42. Andre Smith
43. GodlessandHappy
44. DPRJones
45. Craig James
46. Yannick Melancon
47. Justin Griffith
48. Dan Rawlings
49. Bob Hodges
50. Richard Haynes (Brother Richard)
51. Ellenbeth Wachs
52. Hank Fox
53. Terry
54. Mike Van Roy
55. Cognitive Dissonance
56. Nathan Griffiths
57. Flyingfree333
58. Crispy Sea
59. Absolutegodless
60. Troy Boyle
61. JT Eberhard
62. Atheist Pastor
63. Anthony David Jacques
64. John Kieffer
65. Marc Luzietti
66. Tom Hand
67. Bride of Chucky
68. Mike Lee
69. Karla Porter
70. The Secret Atheist
71. Michael Wilson @GodlessAtheist
72. Moron Watch
73. Alex Rosenberg
74. Emily Dietle
75. Ernest Perce The Saints Revenge
76. Chuck Doswell
77. Greta Christina
78. Bridget Gaudette
79. Rick Wingrove
80. Jim Wall
81. @absolutegodless
82. Trinity
83. Laura Bradley
84. Peter Boghossian
85. Jerry DeWitt
86. Todd Stiefel
87. Secular Woman
88. Tris Stock
89. Derek Colanduno
90. Brandon Kennedy
91. Post Rapture Looting
92. Dylan Walker
93. David Fitzgerald
94. Bree Olson
95. Brian Fields
96. Herb Silverman
97. Tim Donk
98. Dayln Limesand
99. Maria Maltseva
100. Reap Paden
101. SPACKlick
102. Phil Giordana
103. Abbie Smith
104. Anton Hill -The Atheist Asshole
105. Martin Pribble
106. Robert Darby
107. Justicar
108. Franc Hoggle
109. James Onen
110. Walter Ego
111. The Critical G
112. Russell Blackford
113. Barbara Drescher
114. The Thinking Atheist (Seth Andrews)
115. Mr Deity
116. PZ Myers
117. Eugenie C Scott
118. Brian Dunning
119. Graydon Square
120. Angie Jackson
121. Peter Gilmore

And there will be more added to the list. No matter what you say PZ  Myers or how many times you ban me. No matter how great you think you are Stephanie Zvan. No matter how badly you wanna be famous, smart, and or cool Adam Lee. No  matter how many times Ophelia Benson claims the sky is falling. No matter how long Ed Brayton keeps his fat head buried in the sand so he can deny the damage he has not only allowed but encouraged. And the same for the rest of you.... I am not going to allow you to force your thinking on me or allow you to try and force it on others without saying something about it. I don't know what happened that resulted all you loons getting hit on the head with a safe at once but you people remind me of a damn zombie invasion only you ate your own brains now you just wonder around bumping into each other .

PZ Myers-Lord of the Fly-Brained

   

     I think we have a problem. Many people expect social issues to be black/white. Some skeptics are falling  into this belief also. Skeptics are supposed to be skeptical and that means questioning claims. It also means when coming to a conclusion it should be as close to accurate as possible. When it comes to social issues there are some questions that have more than one right answer. Take feminism for example. Feminism is a necessary and worthwhile cause. There are many instances of women being treated unfairly by men simply because they are women. There are some forms of feminism that can be  unproductive and do not result in positive progress, in fact they are, in my opinion, harmful to the feminist movement as a whole. Most often the people who are doing the most harm to feminism are men who call themselves feminists.  Those men do not know what it is like to be a woman and really seem to have a problem understanding they simply will never be able to know exactly what it is like to be a woman. This is not to say men can't relate on any level or shouldn't speak out on behalf of women or women's issues but they should do it with the limitations of their understanding in mind. Many times you will see feminist men go to extremes and start seeing misogyny in every negative comment or action even slightly related to women. I've come to believe this behavior is somewhat like what we see in homophobic men and their dealings with homosexuals. They often will go to extremes to compensate for feelings they are uncomfortable with. These men have feelings about women they know are wrong and overcompensate by lashing out at other men for even the slightest behavior against any female.
 As I written before, sometimes I am ashamed of the shallow, disrespectful behavior I've seen demonstrated by men towards women. I do not think all men are defined by that behavior,but I realize it needs o be addressed. The radical feminism that is being used in an attempt to further equal rights makes it difficult for people like me to continue to speak out against what we think are inappropriate actions by men. Are some guys dicks? Yes, but so are some women.

  One example of men overcompensating for the feminist cause is my good friend and supporter, PZ Myers. PZ is clearly paranoid or possibly he is guilty of bias against women to the point where he feels some  guilt about it, maybe a bit of both. PZ attacks any negative comment having to do with a female and calls it misogyny. He has created a bubble where a disagreement between a man and a woman can not occur. At the risk of being labeled a misogynist (again) by PZ I must point out that women do make mistakes and they do engage in behaviors that should be criticized by others. PZ has even gone so deep into the pool of misogynist paranoia that he has damned a forum of 500 members called the slymepit as sexist, racist, misogynist, and evil. If a known member of this forum posts in the comment section of PZ's blog they are instantly banned by his beloved 'banhammer' which he gleefully uses to quiet any dissent among commenters. The only people who are immune are his regulars who have earned their loyalty by nodding and smiling or making accusations that support PZ and his paranoid delusions about slymepitters.
 Along with the condemnation of anyone from the slymepit, PZ has also proclaimed his distaste for the idea that men have rights too. The idea that a man can at anytime be a victim of bias is beyond the understanding of those who are so extreme in their idea of feminism as to have become blind to a certain spectrum of social injustice.
  The ways the court system has dealt with child custody issues is one example most should be aware of. The unequal treatment displayed by the courts for years demonstrates just one way men have sometimes been treated as lessors when it comes to raising children. This has changed a lot in many places but still goes on today. The mother is favored by the court as the best caregiver simply because she is a woman. There are other examples but I am not going to go into those now. If you would like to read more then you can go here A Voice For Men. I have had Paul Elam on my radio show as a guest and he has proven to be a reasonable man with sound arguments. I wouldn't say I agree with every opinion on the site but I also can't name a place where I do agree with every opinion it expresses.

  In the latest attempt to show that women are in danger at skeptical/atheist events, PZ Myers makes a claim that shows just how far he has slipped from reason. PZ takes data from a census being conducted by American Secular Census and attempts to show it proves secular women are being victimized at an alarmingly high rate. The problem is, the data isn't complete. It isn't even provided in the results PZ Myers is trying to claim is some kind of 'smoking gun'. Sure there are lots of pretty numbers but there are no important numbers, like overall numbers. Stats are given like this-

Regardless of gender, all uninvolved respondents are asked: What are your reasons for not being involved in the secular movement? Check as many as apply. Women outnumber men in these responses:

• 70%/30% - Bad experience with group, person, or event
• 100%/0% - Can't get over my conditioning that religion is good and secularism is bad
• 67%/33% - Health issues
• 65%/35% - Lack of childcare

Or this-


And women are the only respondents to select these answers:

• 100%/0% - Unwanted advances by other participants
• 100%/0% - Not sure - I can't put my finger on it

Anyone who got past the 5th grade should be able to figure out the flaw in this type of information. These numbers are meaningless except they indicate there was at least one woman who experienced unwanted advances or is unsure. The unwanted advance could be almost anything, such as being asked to coffee in an elevator. The thing is we don't know how serious the problem is without real numbers such as the numbers of women who answered the question yes. Telling us if anyone did is useless...unless your name is PZ Myers. That's right, a professor of biology, a college professor, actually uses these figures to try and prove his case against men. He claims this-

  This American Secular Census thing is actually asking some good questions — insightful, even. It’s trying to get a fine-grained perspective on various factors in our involvement and sometimes comes up with some revealing data.
This is what a lot of us have been saying for quite some time. You have a choice of a few responses to reality: one is to deny it, one is to implicitly approve it, and one is to try and change it. Put me in the last category. Also note that I am shocked at how many skeptics/atheists are in the first, and disappointed at all the ones in the second category.

Yes PZ is correct. Some people are in denial of reality. He is lord of their kingdom, Lord of the fly-brained. 
Is there no end to his downward spiral? And why must he scream the entire way down?

A Public Response To Paul Zachary "PZ" Myers- Quit Lying

Artists rendering  of  PZ Myers if he doesn't stop lying

Defamation

From Wikipedia

Defamation—also called calumny, vilification, traducement, slander (for transitory statements), and libel (for written, broadcast, or otherwise published words)—is the communication of a statement that makes a claim, expressly stated or implied to be factual, that may give an individual, business, product, group, government, religion, or nation a negative or inferior image. This can be also any disparaging statement made by one person about another, which is communicated or published, whether true or false. 

  

famacide

 

fa·ma·cide

[fey-muh-sahyd] 

noun, Law.

a person who destroys another's reputation; a defamer or slanderer.

The Latin phrase famosus libellus means a libelous writing.
example:



Mr PZ Myers
   I figured I would make things as plain and simple as possible-
   You don't have the right to trash my character because you don't agree with me. Writing posts about people breaking the law, mentioning my name at the same time, then blocking my ability to defend myself from your inferred guilt is unfair and childish to say the least. I don't know where you learned to disrespect people or when you came to the conclusion your intellect is above everyone else, it isn't. You seem to think I am some internet punk who won't stand up for himself and will allow you to just say whatever you want while I sit there and take it.That also is incorrect. I have, am, and will hold you responsible for every word you have posted on the internet.  My ridicule of you does not give you the right to libel me. If you want to criticize behaviors I have actually displayed then that is one thing but I will not allow you to make up lies about me. I have not lied about your behavior, I don't think it is unreasonable to ask you to be honest. This isn't a game and I'm not interested in being part of your fantasy where you are superior to every other human on the planet and can do/say anything you want to/about them. People don't exist solely to be judged by you. .
 You are guilty of ongoing, public libel. I noticed you mention the number of followers you have on certain social media sites. This indicates you are well aware of the damage you could be doing you just choose to behave in a reckless  manner showing no concern for others whatsoever. What is it you want us to believe? When you are held responsible for publicly voicing your opinion (see A+) you act as if your own opinion is worthless, deserves no consideration, and has no effect on others.  In other cases you expect people to give your opinion value and embrace the ideas it relays (see feminism & A+). If they fail to do so it doesn't mean they are just different, it means they are idiots or assholes. It means they are no longer worthy of consideration. You must be well aware that for whatever reason some people see you as a leader. Your behavior is imitated by some people because they think it makes them cool. You have readers that look to you as a source of accurate information, you must know that. How do you repay these people? You abuse that respect by misleading them. You also use that respect as a weapon against people you have contempt for. In some cases that contempt stems from people who were defending themselves from your unfair claims about who/what they represent. (see Coffey Loving Skeptic) In some cases it isn't a fair fight (see Justin Vacula) and you know it. That makes you a very weak man PZ. This is a fact which is becoming clear to more people  each day.
  I have over 5 years of ReapSowRadio podcast recordings PZ that I offer as evidence you are wrong about me. I also offer my prior blog posts. Add to that 115 individual interviews I have done for The Angry Atheist podcast that show I do not spend the majority of my time screaming "motherfucker" into the microphone like you have said in your blog posts. The fact you even make such a claim shows how uneducated you are about the people you like to publicly trash. You have no idea what the hell you are talking about. You purposely spread disinformation as a way of attacking innocent people. You attack them on your blog and deny them any way of defending themselves.The only thing they are guilty of is criticizing you. You could at least allow the people you have hit with your banhammer (also known as your 'shield from criticism') one rebuttal along with your claims against their position or character.  You instantly remove my reply to your accusations. What are you afraid of?  It is important you understand this PZ...I'm not talking about people lying about you. I am talking about people who disagree with what you think should be acceptable by society standards. Just because they don't agree it doesn't make them evil or out to get anyone, it means they disagree. Try to connect the dots on this.
 I'll wrap it up with this- You are not going to force me to behave in a manner which meets your approval. Just because you have appointed yourself Feminism Czar that means shit to me. I already know how to work for equality and how to show respect. I also know how to tell when someone has no respect for others and deserves none back. You have been seeing the result of that. You will continue to see/feel a push-back as will Ed Brayton, Stephanie Zvan, Ophelia Benson, Lousy Canuck, and Adam Lee along with anyone else who thinks they can make the rules for the rest of us.Quit confusing atheists with creationists you idiot can't you tell the difference by now? Damn.
 

PZ Myers The Judge, The Jury, The Jerk

 Let's take a look at the latest blog from PZ Myers. He is a scientist, biologist, skeptic, atheist, feminist, I am sure we will find some interesting information about biology, skepticism, or science. Those are interesting subjects, let's see what good old PZ is going to teach us today...

http://freethoughtblogs.com/pharyngula/2013/01/17/not-cool-not-cool-at-all/

    Hey! That's not about skepticism! It looks like a post that could be accusing Reap Paden of identity theft.  PZ left an important element out though......the proof, facts, some kind of evidence besides made up bullshit. 

 I have dealt with some real idiots over the years I have been on the internet but seldom do you see this kind of bullshit. I've dealt with paranormal investigators, religious believers, frauds, psychics, and just plain internet bullies. It is rare to find someone of this ilk. It isn't enough PZ has accused me of being and asshole, racist, misogynist, sexist, fucking scumbag, coward now he has to elude to me being an identity thief. The way he words it he may as well have me convicted already. 

  PZ, I have news for you. You are ignorant and oblivious to the opinions many people have of you these days I guess and I hate to be the one to break it to ya but......A lot of people think you are a moronic twit. That means there are lots of people who could have done what you are giving me credit for. 

You have the nerve to talk about cowardice? How chicken shit and low is it to suggest I may have something to do with pretending to be you and your pleasant conversation with a car dealer without ONE SINGLE BIT of proof except the fact I don't like you. The reason I don't like you is because of the exact kind of shit you see above. You don't have a clue as to what skepticism is. You think it is your place to judge a person and then trash their character in a public forum. You have done it to me, to Justin Vacula, and to many others including the 500 members of the slymepit forum.  With this post you have made it clear to me you deserve no respect from me whatsoever.  I assure you I am no coward. I will stand up for myself and take accountability for the things I do. I did not do what you suggest I am guilty of and if I ever see you then I will be confronting you about the claims you have made about me. Meanwhile you tell people to harass you too your face? PZ if anyone so much as said "boo" to your face you would probably begin weeping uncontrollably and lose control of  your bodily fuctions much like you have your mental faculties   

Who is the coward writing about me while I am in the dungeon banned from defending myself. Even if I do manage to post my comment has the vowels removed. Yea PZ very impressive how you blindfold, tie and gag your victims before you start a fight with them. Real impressive intellect you have there.

Now Let's look at some of the follow-up comments from PZ

 

    PZ is wrong again. I do not have 13 aliases although I soon might because the only way I can comment on his blog posts and lies is to create a new email addy. I also do not have 25 messages in the spam trap. PZ is obviously giving me credit for posts which are not mine or he is lying, again.

I am left wondering....Why bring my name into this at all? Why couldn't PZ just have wrote about some anonymous jerk that is ruining lives by making car dealers call him and have a pleasant conversation? Because he is pissed. Why is he pissed? Because I am right and because he feels foolish, as well he should.
PZ has slipped another rung or two with this unfair post. I have a reputation for being outspoken and honest. Something PZ doesn't know because he is convinced I am limited to screaming "motherfucker" as my only means of communication.
  I may not have the following PZ has but the people I have dealt with don't paint the kind of picture PZ is showing in his gallery.  People may not agree with the manner I use to deal with him but they can not say I am dishonest.
 I'll close with this. This time it is me being dragged through a mud-puddle PZ Myers made in his yard. I am no one special. I just think people should be treated with a certain level of respect and skeptics should be skeptical. I have been guilty of standing up for what I think is unfair or wrong. This time it was me, before me there were others, after me there will be more unless people speak up. Next time it could be you or anyone for that matter. All you need to do is speak out against the wrong atheist/skeptic or use the wrong word and it will be your turn. Is this how we build a better community and work toward positive progress? I don't think so, I would hope you agree.  

Open Comment To Stephanie Zvan

I figure since PZ Myers is too chickenshit to leave my comment up on his blog I cant be too careful (more on PZ soon) So while reading a blog on Stephanie Zvan's site I thought I would leave a comment there. Trouble is Stephanie isn't exactly my bff (ophelia benson is though, she LOVES me)  So just in case I will leave my comment here and send her a link. Here is the link to the post Almost Diamonds
Your welcome for any meager traffic Stephanie.


 Stephanie I wonder if you ever get tired of the way you have to "drama it up" in order to get a response out of people.  Maybe if you didn't grasp onto every little thing and build it into a high school play you would get more respect from people at least.Did you really take Renee's comments to mean this-

"This idea that I should stop drinking, though–that’s toxic. So, hey, you were sexually assaulted. You should just stop living your life rather than cope with some distress. "

or this

"I should be (figuratively) jailed. If I can’t pretend in every particular that it never happened, I should give up my life."

Really Stephanie? Come on are you really that dumb? I mean I can kinda understand playing the drama up when I called you a bitch. Which is clearly what you were doing. You see, I'm not dumb, I get it. The problem is you had a terrible thing happen to you and all this over dramatic crap takes from the message. Along with some serious mistakes, such as-

"Or do they teach that in counseling for sexual assault? I’m pretty sure they don’t, which makes the counseling comment flat out stupid in addition to being grossly inappropriately personal. Especially since what they would have done in counseling, if the counselors were good, was try to help me live as normal a life as possible, making the accommodations I needed. In fact, they would have suggested I do more or less exactly what I did, at least once I was of legal drinking age."

           Yes, they do teach 'that' in counseling for sexual assault. I am sure you don't know because you never even tried to get help. The comment no matter how it was delivered was good advice. Many women think they can "just get over it" but they don't. They need help. You don't know if they would have told you to do exactly what you did.
 The reality of the matter is both you and Renee should talk to a professional about your feelings on your abuse, no matter how 'ok' you feel. Not to be a total asshole but you really should be a bit more responsible before you start saying no one could or would have taught you about drinking because if a young person is reading then they could end up in the same place as you. You might want to include a phone number for anyone who can relate and would like to find some help or learn more. Like say this
 https://www.stopalcoholabuse.gov/inthenews.aspx
  Maybe you would have thought about doing that if you were not so caught up in trashing other people and milking drama.
You know Stephanie Al and I have discussed having you on ReapSowRadio and we think you may well be the one who can actually stand up and back your shit up. Watta you say? I promise I won't call you a bitch. I really would like to understand how you come to your conclusions. Besides if I am a dick it will be in public for all to see, right?

 Sideline-

 Anthony K you are just toxic. Why don't you start your own blog instead of just leeching on others? I may be a jerk sometimes but I pick my battles and I have a reason, you are a stupid prick to people just because, Loser.
And the rest of you, wow. You are some cold fuckers. It really is too bad that many of you will one day find out what it is like to have a loved one in harms way with nothing you can do about it. I hope the shit you said here comes to mind. If any of you can say you already know what I'm talking about then shame on you. How can you claim to have compassion when talking shit about an abuse victim who's BF is having a health scare at least?  And lastly why don't you all quit acting like you have psychic powers. The internet doesn't give you the ability to know everything about other people you've never met.Sorry. I admit I don't know jack shit about what any of you have going on in your heads and I don't wanna know cause it has got to be a twisted fucking place in there for you to say some of the shit I'm reading here.WTF?

Ed Brayton-Who is the Bitch Now?

  
  In case you haven't heard...Ed Brayton is all weepy and sad cause I used the word "bitch" when describing that dick Stephanie Zvan. After catching hell from Adam Lee who believes he is entitled to dictate who says what to whom and how atheists spend their time on what. Then hearing about Ed Brayton posting his problems with my choice of words. Ed was so worked up about this important issue he was writing about it instead of concentrating on his recovery from surgery. That's right, it is that important. Let's not forget PZ who took my opinion of Stephanie and turned it into me being a misogynist, sexist, ranting asshole with a shitty radio show who is banned forever from his awesome incredible blog where he launches personal attacks on a regular basis and allows commenters to make up whatever crazy shit they want to about people while he remains silent.( I post on PZ's blog anyways when I am in the mood...shhhh He will never figure it out) Anyhoways, after all that I was thinking maybe I was wrong. It seems like I see/hear lots of people use the word "bitch" in different forms all the time. Many times it isn't gender specific, just like when I used it to describe Stephanie Zvan, leader of the world and co-dictator of proper behavior (along with Adam Lee) I turned to the internet and searched for the answer to my question- Should I be allowing people like Adam Lee to advise me how to speak? I typed in Ed Brayton bitch thinking that the search phrase would possibly lead me to a website where Ed had videos posted of him instructing people how to speak without offending anyone as a large FTB sign flashed in the background...or something like that. I know you will be as shocked as I was to find these results instead-

 http://scienceblogs.com/dispatches/2008/09/18/aint-karma-a-bitch/

http://scienceblogs.com/dispatches/2006/08/14/balko-finds-a-gem/

 http://scienceblogs.com/dispatches/2007/10/17/gay-marriage-in-prison/#more

http://scienceblogs.com/dispatches/2007/03/27/another-miller-jenkins-case/

http://isisthescientist.com/2009/11/30/discrimination_and_the_power_o/

WHAT?! Ed Brayton using the SAME WORD he was so critical of me using and the word "shrew"?  You would never catch me using that word. Imagine my surprise.The word hypocrite popped into my head...again. Not only that but the cheap shot at gays was...well a cheap shot. If you want to tell me Ed has changed his use of words since these examples then I would answer that by informing you that Ed referred to Renee Hendricks as a "git" just last week.

The guy who owns freethought blogs is just as full of shit as:

How about this blog from PZ Myers where you find the word 'bitch' used 21 times in the comment section. No where do you see PZ telling anyone that they are misogynists. In fact PZ NEVER says ANYTHING about the use of the word at all.
http://scienceblogs.com/pharyngula/2009/03/25/a-heartless-faith/

Or if that isn't enough to show PZ is a little selective about who he casts judgement on then watch the last 2+ min of this video
 http://youtu.be/a2WamHXAZcA?t=1h12m42s

I wonder if a man would have been saying the same sort of thing would it have been considered funny? Ever?
    Just to make sure you all understand me I am not saying PZ is a bad person for allowing the use of the word bitch, ( I am a little worried about how readily PZ and company hand over their testicles)  that Ed Brayton should be censored, or that anyone should stop using any specific words. I am making the same argument about what has been the biggest barrier between  FTB, A+, the Skepchicks, and the rest of the world. Hypocrisy. Hold yourself to the same standards as you would others in similar circumstances.

If you search 'freethought blogs bitch' you come up with-About 94,500 results (0.19 seconds)
I don't know about you but 94,000 seem like a lot. It seems people like Ed Brayton, Adam Lee, Stephanie Zvan, and PZ Myers would do well to clean up their own house before complaining about anyone else. From the search I can see there is a show called "Godless Bitches" (free plug -you're welcome) maybe Ed should tell them how he feels about their use of the word "bitch". Maybe PZ should tell them not to bother trying to comment on his blog because they are sexist. Somehow I doubt that will happen.


    There are a few problems that need to be solved before any of this crap can end. One is the hypocrisy. It's not that hard to apply the rules for behavior evenly. It doesn't matter if you are a 'scientist' who writes what was at one time a respected blog, if you are Joe Common who is commenting on that blog, or Mary Attendee going to a conference the rules need to be applied equally. At least be consistent in your criticism if you must be critical of others. Second is learn how the internet works and accept the fact. This should be followed by acting accordingly. The internet is like a big machine, say a washing machine for example. If you go to the washing machine and you tell it "I cut my hand on a piece of glass and it hurts" How will the washing machine reply to that? It will slosh around make a bunch of bubbles spin in circles splash some more, spin some more and then just sit there. It will sit there, cold, uncaring, and quiet. It won't give you a hug, in fact sometimes it will start rocking as it spins and tip over landing on top of you. Do this- When your washing machine is spinning grab an article of clothing and toss it in. Don't try to hold on to it or you will get hurt. Just toss it in and observe what happens? That is how the internet works. Whatever you throw in it gets caught up with the spinning and turns into a blur. It doesn't care how much you cry or complain. It doesn't care about anyone or anything, it just sloshes and spins and goes quiet. It doesn't give a shit. Accept it.
  Third. You are not psychic. No one can know who or what another person is thinking or believes if they have never met and even then you can't be sure cause you aren't in their head. I'm not saying you can never know another  persons motives for sure but...yes I am saying that. I love it when someone who is a couple thousand miles away and has never had any exchange with me whatsoever can make claims as to what kind of person I am or what my motives are. I can assure you that is impossible because even I am not 100% sure at times. Everyone should be able to relate to that sentiment IMO otherwise you are too conceited for your own good.
  As long as we have popular people who are calling themselves skeptics/atheists while behaving like con-men and frauds there will be a problem. PZ Myers doesn't get it and Ed Brayton doesn't either. Many people think this is a conflict where both sides are at fault. Those people say "I just wish both sides would grow up" It isn't that easy. The entire reason the slymepit exists is because of the bullshit, lies, and hypocrisy from certain people. There is no one who is telling lies about PZ, Ed, Ophelia, Stephanie, Jason, Adam, Melody or any of the other people mentioned in the slymepit. There is a difference of opinion with those people and it is because they are not being skeptical. If anyone starts telling outright lies about another person you can be sure I will not be a part of it and I will speak out against it if it is brought to my attention. There is no reason to lie or cover for your buddies. Doing so only makes you look foolish and damages your credibility.
 No one wants to deal with a load of bullshit and hypocrisy especially in the skeptical/atheist circles, there is plenty of that in  politics/religion for us to deal with as it is.
 The best thing people can do now is try to step back and take a look at the behavior of people trying to condemn others for being misogynist, sexist, evil, MRAs. Take a look at their behavior. Don't use the word "context" to excuse it, don't apply anything to it, just take it as it is. Isn't "context" a term we often hear used by religious people to excuse the way biblical verses are applied?
   I'm getting kinda tired of people who don't know me explaining to other people who don't know me what it is I am all about. Very few people are educated enough to explain to others what I think and/or believe and that number is one, me.

A public reply to Adam Lee from Daylight Atheism

Think humans adam...humans

  

  You may remember my mention of Adam Lee. Well it seems he has his own version of events and has posted about them here. In my opinion this is Adam's attempt to backpedal from his lame position on my behavior. Adam still insists on referring to a gif file of a dog dry humping a cow as pornography. I'm not sure if Adam has a wife but if he does I hope she suffers as little as possible while in Adam's company, it must be terribly painful at times. In case Adam Lee is planning on 'losing' my reply I am posting it here so that it will continue to offer a more realistic look at the events Adam started into motion......


   Adam you have never even taken a moment too try and talk to me. You don't know a thing about me. The only reason you even started to give me so much of your attention is because Al Stefanelli was using you to wipe up the floor in a debate you were having with him. You suddenly had a problem with me calling Stephanie Zvan a bitch. Ok, well where I come from we talk like that. I don't reserve the term bitch for any particular gender or social class it is a relatively generic term. I was just as likely to have called her a dick. If anyone who never uses slang to refer to another person wishes to criticize me, that is one thing. I wonder how many people have never used the term "bitch"  or any other slang term because you can't say one is worse than another if one is wrong they all are wrong.
 You also seem to lack an understanding of some words Adam. Misogyny is not defined by a male having a disagreement with a female. Try understanding the words you are going to use when describing others, especially when you are trying to harm their reputation. Stephanie Zvan was not crushed by my calling her a bitch, in fact she made a public post informing me that I was to address her as a "fucking effective bitch" .Why is it Stephanie Zvan is not being called out for endorsing the use of the word when addressing her?
     I have been doing a live radio show on Tuesdays for the last 5 years Adam. I have had Eugenie Scott, Brian Dunning, Mr Deity, PZ Myers as just some of the guests. I have covered all types of subject matter from gun laws, to racism, to drug addiction, politics, almost any subject you can think of I have also been doing another podcast for the last 1 1/2 years interviewing atheist in order to remove some of the misconceptions about atheism. On that podcast I've had David Silverman, Matthew Chapman, DJ Grothe, Greta Christina and over 100 other individuals. The podcasts are all available. Never once has any of my guests ever claimed I was anything less than respectful and pleasant. I helped the women who founded Secular Woman do a podcast that would help launch their project. I have a blog that has been my outlet for addressing unfair accusations such as yours as well as share my thoughts on the world in public for all to see. You can take your snapshot of me and try to paint me in whatever background you wish Adam. I can not do much about that, but anyone who actually takes the time to talk to me instead of attacking without knowing any of the details will probably find me to be a pretty nice guy. I am outspoken and lack tact maybe but I don't lie about people and I make it clear my opinions about people are just that, my opinion. I also don't allow some one I've never heard of trash me in a public forum. If you don't like my radio show no one is forcing you to listen. You were the one who started this and you didn't even have the testicular fortitude to do it to my face, you talk shit behind my back like a rodent nibbling on a crumb of toast in the shadows hoping no one could hear the sound of crunching bread.
 As far as you trying to instruct me on the words I am allowed to use or how I spend my time and on what, you can forget it. I don't know what caused you to believe you are an authority on anything or have it over anyone but it simply is not the case. The sooner you accept that fact the better for you because most people do not like strangers running up and ordering them around. I think I have done my best to show how ignorant you are about me Adam I have very little respect for men like you but I do have a healthy amount of pity because I think you are probably doomed as a slave to your need to be somebody. Allow me to close with a thank you (not so much heartfelt as an example of irony) for the attention. Your condemnation has failed miserably Adam I'll add the resulting pity to the pile.