Thursday, January 5, 2012

Men Are A-holes

There seems to be a wave of realization making it through the atheist movement. A bit of knowledge has fallen from sky and landed right in front of a bunch of atheists. The sad part is many of us already were well aware of it. Another depressing thing about it is, it applies almost across the board. Sure I've seen people blogging about it claiming it is unique to the atheist movement. They say it never shows in other aspects of life.
    It has an ability to become almost invisible. Be assured...it's almost always present, usually hiding just out of sight. You can even catch it peeking out between sentences, or as a dim shadow behind an innocent hand gesture. It can even disguise itself as a considerate comment or action.
 While raising my daughter it was something I warned her to watch out for as she grew up. I warned her to keep an eye out because sooner or later she was going to come face to face with it, and she would need to know what to do because it would confront her throughout her life.
 What is it I am talking about? What could be so common yet unknown to so many? Why hasn't it been stopped? It can't be stopped, not completely. The best we can do is confront it and make it hide as much as possible.

 The thing I'm talking about can be summed up with one sentence.
 Men are assholes.
 I'm probably going to get in trouble for making this statement in public. It's one of those things that are against the unwritten law to say out loud. Some other examples are things like 'Everyone masturbates' and 'Your mother had sex with a man in order to give birth to you'  things we know about but you just can't go around telling people because  it sucks even more when you are forced to acknowledge it by someone else.
  Sorry guys, it's true and we know it. It's about time we accepted it and dealt with the problem.
  Now let's be clear, I'm not talking about the assholes who honk their horn if you take more than 2 seconds to move when the light turns green. I'm not talking about the assholes who think you are a pussy because you football jersey has the wrong colors or mascot on it, there is no hope for those people.
 I'm talking about the assholes who think women are just on the planet as objects. The guys who think every woman was born so they could listen to men tell them what they wanted done for him, to him, or by him. They think women like it when a man screams across the street at her "Hey, nice ass!" or  "Come over here, I got somethin' for you baby". These guys are convinced when she posts her picture on the internet it is for one reason...so guys can tell her whether or not they would have sex with her and how often. 
 I could give you a million examples of this type of behavior. I will limit myself to one more example that stands out from my experiences.
 I had a future brother-in-law, he was a nice guy. He was quiet and intelligent, really laid back, seemed like a cool guy.I'll call him Ted. Before the wedding Ted was having a bachelor party. The party was being organized by Ted's best friend. Ted's best friend was not laid back, he was annoying. I'll call him Dickface. Dickface and I met a couple of days before the party because my sister had insisted I be involved. There were a couple other guys there, I got along well enough with them. Dickhead however was another story, the guy was, a dickhead. He was talking about how Ted didn't want a stripper but he was getting one anyways. "What kind of pussy doesn't want a stripper at his bachelor party?" Dickface asked. I suggested maybe we respect Ted's wishes. He obviously was a bit shy and I didn't want to make him uncomfortable. Needless to say Dickface now had the opinion I was a pussy too. Since Dickface was wrong I didn't remain a part of the planning committee because Dickface didn't like it when pussies hit him in the face. (see first description of asshole above)
 I was however still invited to the bachelor party because I was the bride's brother and I guess there is an unwritten law somewhere addressing that too. I sat drinking beers at the party waiting for what I knew was coming. Sure enough Dickface had followed through with his plan. And I was correct, my future brother-in-law was not really pleased with the planning committee's decision, in fact he was extremely displeased. I could see he knew there was no choice for him, he was in front of all his guy friends at an event that has been one of the staples of manhood since before we realized everyone masturbates.
  The stripper wasn't ugly, what was ugly was the turn the crowd took when she burst onto the scene. Maybe it was because I was sitting watching from a certain perspective, I don't know, but the behavior of the men at this party was pathetic. I watched as guys I had talked to earlier in the night, normal mature guys, acted like third grade boys who had found a copy of playboy in their school lunchbox and the centerfold had come to life. I have nothing against naked women, in fact I have a great respect for the female form. It has an appeal and a strength that men can never hope to equal. maybe that's why men tend to treat it the way they do, when something intimidates people they try to beat it down any way they can. They try to break it and keep it from realizing it's own abilities.
  I think the claims of men 'objectifying' women have been used too often in circumstances where it doesn't really apply. This has caused the term to lose any credibility. This is unfortunate because men are assholes who treat women like objects.If a  woman points it out she is an uptight bitch, all she does is complain and hate on men, she must be a lesbian.
  If we could ask women without coming off as perverts how often they are just as pleased during sex as their partner I bet we would get a pretty good indication of how some men consider women.If a man is not treating the woman he is intimate with with some respect then how is he going to treat a woman he doesn't know? Like an object he doesn't care about.



I'm not going to get into the science of why men are assholes in this way because I don't need to. Men know they are assholes they count on other men being too afraid of looking like wimps to say it out loud and they depend on women putting up with it. If no one acts to stop them then why should they stop? There have been great changes in the workplace and in some media and social environments we have made it clear you can not act like an asshole without expecting to be held accountable. There still is work to be done and even in the places men are no longer allowed to be assholes they still are only now it's kept inside.
 Like I said, I warned my daughter about all you idiot types out there, she knows how to deal with your attempts to make her feel cheap and good for nothing except as a target for your childish disrespectful comments or behavior. When you are  an asshole around me I'll tell you so too. If you need to be an asshole so bad then do it to other guys not to their Mothers, sisters, daughters and wives.
   Note: This was written by a guy who is well aware of his biases and limitations when addressing this subject. I did the best I could,  what do you expect from an asshole?

7 comments:

  1. Well said and remember, one day, one of those assholes will be hitting on your sister, daughter or good friend.

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  2. Maybe one day when enough women will see the assholes for who they are, and stop putting up with it. The old "bad boy" cliche, gets old, as life wears on. At some point, it isn't hot anymore.

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  3. No wonder I like you so much, asshole ;)

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  4. So is this Reap Sow admitting he is a asshole towards women?

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  5. Yes I admit it, I am also an asshole to men, children and kittens. Did you have a point to make about something I haven't covered about a million times before or were you just showing off you your talent at pointing out the obvious?

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  6. Nah, just wondering if you were trying to play the bleeding heart to get dates.

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  7. I don't 'get dates' through my blog. Wanted to see if it works before trying it yourself huh?
    Hey, are you the same person who emailed me asking whether deodorant was really necessary? Sorry I haven't had time to get back to ya. Yes,deodorant is important and no people are not going to just 'get used to' the way you smell.

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